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Dear Oloni.. I’m a 21 y/o practising vegan. I’ve always been veggie but I ‘upgraded’ to vegan since I fell pregnant in 2010. My ‘baby father’ (who I never actually dated) plays a very active role in our sons life. But wen he’s with him, he gives him meat..LOTS of it. I’ve explained to him so many times my reasons. My family are Rastafarian (Guyanese)& have told me I shouldn’t allow him to go to his dads, since he sent me pictures of my son eating a pork sausage hot dog out of spite. Each time I talk to him, he gives him more meat. He is Nigerian & i’ve not heard of most of the dishes he is feeding my child.. But my good friend who is Nigerian has told me that the food he is giving my son is not ideal for a 4year old. doctors have said my boy is obese for his age. Do you think I should stop him from seeing my son? he has hinted that becoming a couple is the only way our child will remain meat-free.. But I don’t want to be with him. What do I do?
2. June 2015
Right so in order for you to both co-parent properly, you’re going to have to TALK, this means telling him what the doctors told you and asking what are in the dishes he feeds your child. You have to compromise but also make sure he has a healthy diet. In a sense you both have a say in what your child can eat. I don’t suggest you stop him from seeing his father, but I do suggest you nip his suggestive remarks about ‘becoming a couple to change both your sons eating habits’ in the bud.
Hey, i have been dating this guy since christmas of last year and it is going great, or was going great. Sometime around April he met this girl and they seem to be getting a bit too close for comfort. She is always around his house but he has other friends there so i don’t want it to seem like i’m being annoying. Just recently he took a trip to atlanta with his friends and next thing i know she tags along. To make matters even worse one of my friends who has her on snapchat sent me some screenshots of her lying naked in bed next to him and another of him just wrapped in the bed sheet. Her snapchat story is full of her grinding on him and licking on him and it makes me really uncomfortable.She also taunts me on social media constantly by putting up pictures of them together and when she does this she somehow manages to follow me and unfollow me on twitter which is clearly intentional just to make sure i see her posts. It is really starting to get on my nerves and i’ve talked to him about it and he says it’s no big deal. what do you think? am i being paranoid or just stupid for letting all this slide?
2. June 2015
He’s clearly seeing this other chick and if it’s making you uncomfortable..cut him loose. Yes you’re not commited but these actions are still very disrespectful. She knows what she’s doing & it’s clear he has no problem with it, so move on. I’ll make this a #QOTD in a few minutes.
Hey Oloni Wanted some advice on this guy I’m seeing well “sexing” we talk almost everyday and we have amazing convo and I feel like I can be myself around him. First time we met we had sex (my fault for portraying myself that way) since then it’s just been sex and I feel like I’m being used all the time and I tell him and say I’m done then he starts begging saying how much he really likes me but he just hasn’t got time to do things such as going out etc. I understand but he’s always out with his boys so you clearly have time. every time he wants to see me its “babes come to mine and we can chill” it’s not everyday and I’m tired and I’ve told him I suggest “let’s do this, let’s go that place” but he’s always “tired” but not too tired to have sex. How do I break this off, bearing in mind I’ve tried twice already. He’s a nice guy and everything but it’s not everyday sex I hate feeling as if I’m being used but I still go back. I’m a real extrovert and I love going out and doing things how do I make him understand that or should I just leave him altogether? Can you PLEASE answer this
2. June 2015
Leave him ALL together. All you’ve told me is that he’s after sex & that when he’s about to lose out on sexual pleasure he begs to make you feel wanted till he gets what he’s after. Do the no contact rule & go out there and meet other guys with similar interest to yours.
Hi Dami. I would like to say well done with your books and your events; you’re an inspirational young woman. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 4 years now. Our relationship has been quite rocky because of the barrier in our religions; I’m Muslim and he’s Christian. His parents and family live me regardless, but it’s my family that have a problem with it all. I really see a future with my boyfriend, marriage, family etc. but I don’t want to convert to Christianity because Islam is really deep rooted within me and is pretty much a daily aspect of me and he doesn’t want to convert EVEN THOUGH in the first two years he was so adamant that he was willing to convert? I don’t know, I’m quite lost. Please can you help? #qotd.
2. June 2015
I’ll make this a #QOTD – You need to have a serious conversation about this because if none of you are willing to convert then the relationship will just become really rocky. You also can’t force each other to change religions even it was something you both discussed once upon a time, you could end up resenting each other.
My friend keeps cheating on her boyfriend. The first time they were both in the wrong she cheated on him with her close friend and then he cheated on her with his so called best friend. However, I think she has taken the cheating too far now and it’s even got me angry. Basically, I had a house party and long story short I cought her sleeping with a guy in my own bed. I was too drunk to address it. What should I do about it?
2. June 2015
Ask her to keep her business out of your room. You can advise her to stop cheating and leave the relationship if she wants to see other men, but that’s honestly it.
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