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Hi Oloni, I’ve never really been into girls but the other night my bestfriend and I got quite drunk and long story short we had sex (we’re both girls), I have a boyfriend but after that night I think I’ve started to develop feelings for her but I do really adore my boyfriend. I’m not sure what I should do. please make this QOTD
16. June 2015
No need to be a QOTD however – you need to decide what you want & be honest with the people you could be potentially hurting.
Hi Oloni, I’ve been seeing this guy for a few months, we were going so well. We haven’t slept together which is really different for me. Anyway we go out for dinner and see eachother frequently I’ve met his family and he is a super nice guy, I’m 19 and he’s 23 not a difference but I thought it’s worth stating for a better picture, I’m really starting to like him, and he’s told me he’s likes me and wants to see where things go. We recently started talking about sex and he said he doesn’t want to rush into anything but soon after this he stopped speaking to me. I’m not sure if I’m being paranoid or not but I was completely up for it and was ready to with him (both have had a couple of sexual partners, so we aren’t virgins) I don’t know whether my keenness is the reason he doesn’t want to talk anymore I’ve tried messaging him on several types of media eg text call iMessage snapchat – no reply. What do I do?
16. June 2015
Move on, he’s shown he’s not that interested any more. Don’t dwell on it.
Hey Oloni Can you advise me on this. Few months b4 my birthday my girlfriend of 10months who I live with asked me what I wanted for my birthday and I jokingly said I didn’t mind a threesome. We both laughed at it and I honestly thought it ended there. She went behind my back and told my best friend(whom she always told me is cute) that I would love a threesome for my birthday and invited him to join!. They both planned it and on my birthday after we partied all night my best friend followed my girlfriend and I home. We started smoking and drinking again in the living room and before I knew my girlfriend was already giving me head in front of my friend. I wanted to stop her but It’s been a fantasy so I left her to continue. My friend joined later and we both banged my girlfriend in turns. After that day I felt so bad I couldn’t even look her in the face again . But I blame myself for putting the thought in her head. 2 months later, my girlfriend got upset that I haven’t touched her since my birthday (obliviously I’m not over the fact that my best friend fucked her). I tried to explain things to her but she didn’t care to listen
16. June 2015
There’s so much going on here. Why did you not ask him to leave once he followed you? Why was this not a discussion prior. It’s absolutely messy and has probably ruined the dynamics of this relationship. Try and talk about it & see where you can go from there.
Hey Oloni, I’m a bit embarrassed to admit this but I’m 22 and never had a boyfriend. I don’t even go on dates. It’s not that I’m shy I’m a social person but I haven’t met a guy who is interested in me. I’d like to at least go on a date this year. What should I do?
16. June 2015
There’s a lot different things you can do. I start relationship coaching in July if you want help to improve your dating experience e-mail me itsoloni@gmail.com
Hi oloni, I have this issue with my boy friend I think he makes time for his female friend more than he makes time for me which makes me feel really shit if I’m not… It’s a continuo thing and I don’t think I can take it anymore, cause I feel like what’s the point of being with me if I don’t even see him. I want to break up with him, but at the back of my mind it does seem petty but it’s really bothering me. Do u have any suggestions and I have tried talking to him he blames it on work yet he has time for all these beastly girls he’s friends with. ( I’m jut really frustrated)
16. June 2015
If he’s not making you happy & you can clearly see he has time to socialise with other people then leave. It’s not petty, you’ve spoken about it & nothing has changed.
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