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Hi Oloni, when I was 15 I was in a sexual relationship that lasted a few months with a 22year old man who was fully aware of my age. I am now 19 and understand that this was wrong. My friends are pushing me to go to the police however I don’t want to. They are telling me that it’s a form of rape but the sex was consensual on both parts. It was 4years ago and I just want to leave it in the past. What shall I do?
13. July 2015
I agree with your friends as he was having sex with a minor, however it’s completely up to you with how you want to treat the situation.
Hi, I broke up with and cut off an ex who did me wrong a while back. Wasn’t abusive but treated me like crap. Recently I’ve been seein that he is going through some things and id like to reach out and help him as a friend. I worry he’s spiralling and there’s no one there to help him. But I’m reluctant cause I did so much for him that went completely unappreciated I felt like I’d sold my soul to make him happy and it was draining. I don’t want to give the impression that he can treat me however and I’ll still be there but I also don’t like seeing him the way he is. Any advice? Maybe QOTD too
13. July 2015
I understand you want to help him, but you have to ask yourself whether or not it’s a good idea. You’re no longer his concern and honestly, you should act that way. If you did all the things you said whilst you were together, you’re only going back to something that may end up hurting yourself. It’s not a great choice.
Hi, I’m a 22 year old female who has recently started dating a new guy who’s 28. Generally things are fine but one issue I seem to have sometimes is that I feel like communication could be better, mainly texts. I understand he’s busy with work and likewise but sometimes I can get paranoid and think we’ll if he wanted to communicate he would? Saying this, we still at least text every day even if it’s a general how was your day… Am I being unreasonable?
13. July 2015
You’re not being unreasonable, you want to improve communication with your partner. So start off by expressing how you’d much rather you both spoke over the phone instead of lazy texting.
My boyfriends job requires him to be away 5/7 days a week. When I met him he would cum in 3-5 minutes. Lately he’s been taking longer than 15 minutes and it worries me that he may be pursuing other women while he is up and down the country. Why is he not cumming as fast as he used to? Is it me?
13. July 2015
You need to figure out if you trust him instead of trying to do the maths on how long it takes him to climax.
Hiya Oloni, can this be a private question. The guy I was seeing on and off has given me an STD. I thought I was the only person he was seeing but he admitted to me that he had sex with 2 girls, I’d admit we were on and off at times. He seems sorry but I don’t know whether to forgive him and ever trust him again plz help
13. July 2015
A guy you were seeing has put you at risk, his apology should not be on your mind but going to the clinic and discussing safe and protective contraception.
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