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Hi, I met this guy, we went out on a couple of dates and things were going well and then he wanted to sleep with me but I wasn’t ready and I thought it was too soon. When I was ready we were about to get into it and he shrivelled up like a raisin. I wasn’t annoyed with him I was fine. His ego was dented but I spoke to him and told him it was fine. We were speaking everything was good and every time we were meant to meet up he had an excuse. I went away for two weeks which we didn’t see each. During those two weeks we didn’t speak to each other, I’ll message him and he wouldn’t reply or replied very late. I came back from my break and we met and spoke about his communication issues. He said that he doesn’t mean to do it. And that night we made up. The first round was good and the second round he shrivelled up again. Afterwards we spent time together spoke for hours etc and he said he liked being with me. Two days after I messaged asking when would I see him next and he said he doesn’t know and he feels awkward because it’s not the first time his shrivelling up has happened. He then said he needs space/time. So I left to it. 2 weeks after I keep bumping into him and he hasn’t said anything not even a hi? I’m not sure what the problem is. I’m a bit confused how one min you can like me and the next min you need space. I don’t know whether I should say hi to him when I see. What should I do? 7. May 2015

Give him the space he asked for, he’s probably still very embarrassed about the incidents that have happened. Even though you have spoken about it, he might not know how to handle it. The best thing you can do is let him be for now.

Whats the best way to breakup with a female without being made to feel guilty for doing it 7. May 2015

You can’t help how you’ll feel. Just be honest and explain why you want to end things face to face.

Duno if you got my question. I messed up with my girlfriend and I wasn’t there for her when she needed me. Now were at the point where she resents me for it. I’m not good at admitting in wrong when I do and it’s only now I’ve realised how I Made her feel. What can I do to prove I love her and won’t let her down again? Wana feel close to her again 7. May 2015

Just answered 🙂

Me and my girl haven’t been on good terms in a while init. I kind of fucked up and got her to the point of wanting to leave me. But not long after she said she still wants to be with me but I should sort myself out because I can’t be hurting her like that again. I’m really bad at admitting I’m wrong and I switch off when she shouts at me so it’s like I don’t care when I do. How can I make her happy again because before this point she was the happiest girl in the world. I wana be the reason for that again init. What would you suggest apart from just telling her 7. May 2015

You have to exercise your words into actions, you have to figure out a way to communicate without any shouting involved once things go badly the two of you.

I have a problem with staying interested in a guy, I get bored really easily is there something wrong with me? I’ll be talking to a guy and I’ll get bored of him within a couple days or weeks and I’ll just cut off contact. I want to start dating but how can I find someone I’m genuinely interested in? 7. May 2015

You continue dating and dating and dating and dating, until you meet someone who you;re not bored of. Remember to also keep things interesting on your half too. It’s no good dating if you’re not actually giving your all and hardly putting in any effort.

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