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Hey Oloni, I just need some advice. Right so next week I’m having sex for the first time since I lost my v-card a couple years back and I’m really nervous I don’t know what to expect, what to do! How do I prepare myself because honestly I don’t know what I’ve got my self into but I just feel like it’s time. 14. November 2018

Heya hun! Breatheee. Make sure you enjoy a lot of foreplay before any penetration happens. This will allow you to feel more relaxed. Perhaps take some lube with you also and communicate with your sexual partner how you enjoy being pleased.


My sugar daddy said he’s going to be broke for a while once as he is investing in some properties. I’m literally vomiting as I type this because sugar daddy and broke in the same sentence makes me gag. But I love him so what do I do. 20. October 2018

Hey love! You’re not supposed to be “in love” with your sugar daddy. Perhaps it’s time to cut him loose?


Hey Oloni, two of my close friends had a thing for a while. They were never together and never had sex, as she didn’t want to. She recently expressed that she wasn’t interested in the male friend, and didn’t want to take it any further. Long story short – I was drinking with the male friend and we ended up having sex. The male friend doesn’t want to tell the female friend, but I feel deceitful. Should I tell her? 5. October 2018

I mean you don’t have to in my very honest opinion it’s your sex life, your business. They weren’t in a relationship, they just fooled around. However, I do think it could be wise to let her know. If she finds out and it doesn’t come from you it could look a bit funny, especially if she’s a good friend.


Hi Oloni, I met this boy at a sport I play for uni (not going to say cause it will bait me out to people who know about me 😂) anyways we started talking on WhatsApp and he invited me over to his, we didnt do anything but kissed then he invited me the next day at 2am to chill in my innocent head I actually just wanted to chill but turned out he wanted to have sex we got into an argument and he threatened to send me back home but he said sorry and we chilled we still talk but I’m scared he just wants me for sex now. I have made it clear that I don’t want to have sex. What do I do? I really like him btw 😪 5. October 2018

He’s crazy! Run away from him.


Hi Oloni. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 and a half years. I hate to be this person, but I can’t help but find it quite bizarre that he’s never posted me on his social media, my main concern being Instagram. He has 1000+ followers on his Instagram and is a regular Instagram user, he posts pictures and stories religiously every single time when he goes out… and I take most of them lol. At first, I respected the fact that he just wanted to keep our relationship private, but after nearly 3 years I can’t help but feel like he’s trying to maintain the image of a single person. I’ve confronted him about this a while ago, and his response was along the lines of ‘its not that deep’. Alongside this, my friends often make passing comments about the fact that he hasn’t posted ANYTHING of me over our relationship. Not to mention other females (probably unknowing about the fact that he’s not single) often comment under his photo lovestruck eyes and ‘I see you, abs and that’ etc etc. I love him so much and don’t want to push him away with this petty issue, but in the same instance it makes me feel very sceptical, insecure and hurt that he chooses to post everything in his life but me. Is this something I should be worried about, or am I overthinking… 5. October 2018

Heya I understand where you’re coming from, but the truth is even if he did post you it wouldn’t make women back off. If he posts other aspects of his life and not you, I do see why you find it to be an issue. A photo here and there from birthdays or even Valentine’s Day isn’t going to kill him.

I feel like he dismissed you by saying “it’s not that deep”. If it’s not that serious, he’d do in a heartbeat and take your feelings into consideration, but he hasn’t, he doesn’t want to. Why? Is he entertaining other women? 3 years is a very long time. You’re his girlfriend, not a a woman who he’s in a situation ship with. Some girlfriends like to be shown off, boyfriends do too! It’s a very normal thing.

Approach the topic again with him and see what he says. If your boyfriend still chooses to ignore your minor request and it is VERY minor. He’s either a stubborn goat or genuinely wants to keep your relationship a secret on social media which is messed up.

Also, stop taking his fucking photos for him.



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