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Getting straight to the point, I used my ex’s grief as an excuse to see him and have sex with him and now I am feeling extremely guilty?? I’ve always been in love with my ex even though I’ve dated people from time to time. I heard through my sibling who is still in close contact with him and that he recently lost someone in his family. I contacted him as I was genuinely concerned for him and I wanted to see he was okay, he askes to meet up and I agree, we talk and one thing Lead to another. After this, I haven’t bothered to contact him or see if he’s okay, I just wanted to see him and fuck. Am I a bad person???
6. March 2018
You used him and that’s disgusting especially in the state he’s in. You could have honestly found attention or intimacy elsewhere, why him? Why now? I think you should try staying away unless you know can be there as a genuine friend.
When someone is in a vulnerable state the last thing you should think of doing is taking advantage of them. This is why some people find it hard to trust the intentions of genuine people.
Oloni
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Hi Oloni, I’m so sick of being messed about by boys. They take me on a few dates, I haven’t slept with any of them that have, and then after a few dates they just loose interest. I don’t rely on a mans attention to give me confidence but it’s really getting me down. I keep over thinking everything, like I’ll never be as attractive as some of the girls out there and there’s nothing special about me at all. I just feel like I’m in rut in my life and I’m just not satisfied with anything. I’m at uni so I should be having the best time ever (I’m on 2nd year) I just need some girl advice on how to approach everything, whenever I speak to my friends about it they just brush me off 😖 xxx
6. March 2018
Hey hun, believe it not, but what you’re going through is incredibly common! The fact that you’re going out on dates means your making an effort to get to know new men. I think you should try and carry on doing whatever it is that you’re doing, but also make sure you’re working on yourself as a person, so when the right person comes along they have a great version of yourself.
Good luck
Oloni
Hey Oloni, my ex has convinced herself im in a relationship with someone else. To the extent she has messaged this girl and bombared me with messages. I found out she has been hacking my social media and emails for months. I would block her on Facebook she would unblock herself and keep messaging me. I checked my active sessions when i was logged in and her phone was logged in too. Ive deactivated facebook, changed my number email address everything. She found my new facebook and continued to message me. I really don’t know what to do its affecting me too much, is the police the only option? Ive tried the whole ignoring her but she just won’t stop its so draining i dont understand what shes getting out of this.
6. March 2018
I don’t actually condone women being called “crazy”, but this, this is crazy. She’s out done herself and it’s scary. Contact the police asap and file a report, I’m sure there’s something they’ll be able to do, but keep blocking her and putting a 2 step verification on all your social media apps, so she can’t gain access.
Oloni
Can the sex and secrets posts be regular, I really enjoy reading them !!!
6. March 2018
we’ll try!
Hi Oloni, I’m currently going through the most stupid dilemma. A couple of days ago my boyfriend and I went hiking. I ended up spraining my ankle really bad and couldn’t walk the long distance back to the car. My boyfriend is thin and i weigh more than him so he was unable to pick me up. He got frustrated and started going on and on about how it’s my fault for wanting to go hiking in the first place. He walked away from me while i was laying on the ground in pain and I was pissed. Then this man came up to me and asked if i needed help. At first i was hesitant but there was no way i could walk back. He picked me up and ended up taking back to my car. He stayed with me and asked if there was anything i needed. I told him that i was fine and was going to call an uber to take me to the hospital. I thanked him then he left. My boyfriend saw and was fuming. Now he won’t talk to me because he said i embarrassed him by letting another man pick me up. I think it’s stupid of him to get mad, but at the same time i don’t want to ruin our relationship. What should i do?
6. March 2018
Your boyfriend is annoying, you were clearly in a position where you needed to be helped. He’s making this about his pride, which is unfair. It sounds like the other dude, literally helped and went about his business. If you were drowning and some other guy gave you mouth to mouth resuscitation, would he start jumping up and down, screaming, saying they should let you drown? Your man sounds like a child. He’s not even trying to be reasonable.
Give each other some time, then talk about it and ask what he would have preferred you to do.
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