Hey hun, the number of men you’ve had sex with doesn’t have anything to do with why you’re not in a relationship. I always ask young women who ask this question, just exactly what they’re doing in order to find a commitment. I find a lot of people are more interested in a relationship and not the journey to get one.

Do you date often?? Have you tried going to different social events to meet new people? Have you created new friends? Joined various dating apps? Gone to networking and dating events? If not those are some tips.

Work on yourself as a person too! Good luck x

Oloni

You can’t.

Oloni

Aww lol some men and women are naturally silent when engaging in intercourse, but talk to him and tell him this. He may not necessarily have to groan, but if he says something that’s a turn on during sex that should be seen as just as good.

Oloni

Calm down love!! Lol it just sounds like you both need to communicate your wants when you’re outside of the bedroom.

“Babe, what would you like me to do more of when we’re having sex?”

or

“I’ve been reading tips on Oloni’s blog for giving head. We should try it.”

Lol.. but forreal here are some tips.

As for him going down on you, just ask if he’s into it.

Oloni

It’s such a tough one. I think it’s important to ask yourself why you slept with someone else, was it a desire to be wanted sexually? Was it frustration? Revenge? Or a moment of weakness?

If you’re going to commit to someone as seriously as this, there’s a huge chance there will be this little niggle at the back of your head reminding you of what you’ve done.

If you want to carry on the relationship, it should have a foundation of honesty. If you can’t even give him that, then walk away.

Oloni