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Oloni, how do I know if a guy genuinally wants to get to know me or if he just wants to sex me at night?
21. May 2018
The conversations you have are just sexual advances, he asks if you live at home alone, only wants to meet at night… those are the obvious hints however.
Oloni
Hey oloni I’ve been with my partner for almost two years but he’s the least romantic person and it’s off putting. I’ve communicated that to him several times but he just says that he’s not used to it? What can I do? Shouldn’t romance come automatically when you love someone?
21. May 2018
If you’ve told him over and over again and he hasn’t tried to change, there is no magic trick you can do to make him TRY. This is who he is, so you either get used to it and accept the fact he doesn’t care enough to find out what you like, or leave.
Oloni
Hi oloni, is it always wrong to ghost on someone? I was ordering food using my bf phone. I saw a text from his friend saying “come on don’t think like that, your girl is good to you” I got curious and opened the text. I know that it was wrong for me to do that but I wanted to know why they were talking about me. I saw that my boyfriend texted him about how I need to humble myself and that fact that he still loves me although I have a huge cut on my face. The cut is from an abusive relationship I was in. He texted this after we had an argument so I know he was mad but I’m angry. I can’t even stand to look at him. It took me a while to gain my confidence back after the cut and I don’t want to be with someone who thinks they’re doing me a favor. I haven’t texted him back or called him. I want to end things by just completely cutting him off. Is this wrong?
21. May 2018
Hey hun, I’m genuinely glad you came across that text, because it allowed you to know the type of person you’ve been with. What he said was dreadful and I think you should let him know what you read. I don’t blame you for wanting to leave after. His comment is very break up worthy and unforgivable at this point.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, is it weird that I want to have sex with two bisexual men at the same time? The idea turns me on.
17. May 2018
No, it’s not weird at all!!
Oloni
Been texting this guy for a few weeks and he still hasn’t asked me on a date yet, we talk about it but he’s never actually outright asked me. I do like him and would like to see him but I’m too scared to ask him to go out, what do I do???
17. May 2018
Ask him out for drinks.
Oloni
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