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Hey Oloni, I’ve recently started seeing a guy and we’ve really hit it off. We’ve already had sex multiple times and I’m not saying it isn’t good, but it’s starting to feel like we have to fuck every time we hangout. I wannabe able to hangout and just enjoy each other’s presence. I know he likes me, from what he’s said and how he acts, but I don’t want it to be all about the sex. What do I do?
29. June 2018
Heya, you’ve created a sexual routine with him, so that’s all he’ll expect, unless you speak up about it. The best thing to do is mention it and try going out dates.
Oloni
my boyfriend is still friends with his ex they took each other’s virginity and recently dated again, he’s told me now that he still meets up with her to have a smoke, maybe once a week. Do I just need to trust him? I’ve suggested about meeting her but I don’t know if she will want to.
27. June 2018
They’re way too comfortable with each other and I feel like boundaries need to be set. I actually think he’s probably sleeping with her.
would he be ok if you met up with a new ex who also once took your virginity, so they can smoke?
If I’m meeting up with a guy to smoke once a week, we’re probably fucking, sooo wise up!
Oloni
Hi Oloni, how do I get a guy to turn into my sugar daddy? Like what personality do I have to create to convince a slightly older man to just give me an allowance, preferably with little to no sex? Bc I tired of these old men coming up to me without a buck to give up…please and thank you.
27. June 2018
Lol read the M in Man is for Money by Passport Cutty.
Oloni
Hey I matched with a guy from Uni on tinder and we’ve been talking for 3 weeks whilst I was back home. We both go to the same Uni but he’s a third year and a foreign student ( he’s going back this summer). I went back to Uni for an end of year event and we met up, and have been hanging out every day for a week. We have had sex and when out in public it’s like we’re practically a couple. He’s actually so perfect and does and says all the right things. We’ve both said we like each other and although he’s made a point that any relationship here is never going to progress into anything more ( he’s said that if I was to visit his country during the winter break, we should meet up). On my last day before going back home for the summer he didn’t get to properly say goodbye to see me off like he said he would have ( he slept through his alarm) he texted me apologizing and after that didn’t text me for the rest of the day or the following day until I texted him asking if he was alright. His answer? He was ill and hadn’t been feeling well hence why he had not answered my texts…. should I just let this be ?
27. June 2018
Yeah I genuinely don’t see this progressing. I see it more as a fling. Flings are good, just try not to mistaken it for something real.
Oloni
Yo, the girl I like is so pretty we met on socials her pics always do numbers but she never smiled in her pics. When we met I deeped it’s cos her gap tooth is mad and she looks bare clapped when she speaks or smiles. She’s still peng and her body is perfect we also get along so well but it’s this one thing that’s turned me off. I’ll never tell her obviously but cos I saw your topic on TL about body issues I know how it can effect girls. I would wanna be with her but just advice calmly that she gets it closed or bonded cos I googled it and it’s fully possible obviously later down the line cos it’s too soon to suggest. Or do you think I should lock it off from now cos I can’t look past it literally
17. June 2018
If that’s how you met her, you can’t start to even think about suggesting such cosmetic procedures. It’s wrong. Let her go and allow the lady to meet someone else who will love off her gap lol.
Oloni
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