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I find my girlfriend really unattractive after I buss when we have sex. She will try to touch me more or kiss on me but I just feel like she looks bad afterwards and I don’t want her hands on me. I thought it was because she sweats a lot or her makeup comes off or a phase but it happens every single time unless I’ve been drinking. It puts me off wanted to have sex with her cos I don’t wanna hurt her feelings afterwards and she’s clocking on to me moving distant. Is there anything I or we can do?
7. July 2018
Oh wow. If you’re not attracted to her, it’d make sense to break up, especially if alcohol is the only time when there aren’t any attraction issues.
Is this the first time you’ve felt like this with a sexual partner? If so, there’s definitely some intimacy issues you have with her particularly.
Oloni
Dear oloni, So I guess here’s my dilemma my boyfriend is always liking insta girls pictures and i honestly wouldn’t care if he wasnt doing it while I’m sat next to him! So one time he went toilet n left his phone on Snapchat i clicked on one insta girl he had followed on Snapchat n he was sending msgs like so sexy and peng like a fan? Anyways I have already ended things but I find myself internet stalking this one insta girl he was messaging like a fan and I find myself comparing myself to her and it doesn’t help her body is definitely natural and she stays getting 20k retweets n likes on twitter also, and she probably really is a nice girl but I keep staring her pics telling myself she only has body n her face isn’t all that n if u had her body u would be complete but seeing the retweets get higher irks me and I only feel way more insecure seeing all the guys comment on how sexy she is n her thigh gap n yada yada. How do I fix this unhealthy obsession My ex built in me
7. July 2018
Hey love! You need to block this girl till you feel secure in yourself. It’s clear as day and as you have acknowledged that this has taken a toll on your self esteem. I don’t personally know you, so I can’t tell you what to work on to help rebuild that, but you really need to work on yourself and also understand that there will always be women who are taller, thinner, slimmer, shorter, curvier and prettier than you, that’s going to always be there. What YOU need to focus on is figuring out what makes you unique, once you know that, nothing can move you in my opinion.
I hope you really do work on yourself before getting back into another relationship.
Oloni
Hey Oloni my boyfriend was watching love island a while back and was tweeting some mad things. he said he’d eat megans ass, i was a bit bothered and told him cus my friends saw it and sent it to me. He refused to delete it and said it’s a joke.. today i was with him and saw he had an album on his phone dedicated to photos of megan.. nudes and everything. Yh i went through his phone, i know it’s wrong.. but isn’t that weird? Is that acceptable?
7. July 2018
Heya, it makes sense as to why you’d be uncomfortable. It’s embarrassing if your boyfriend is online being specific with what sexual acts he’d do with someone else. It sounds like he could have a obsession with the reality tv star. Talk to him and explain what you saw, what you’ve noticed and how it makes you feel. I do think he shouldn’t have tweeted that, especially as he’s in a relationship.
Oloni
I figured out that I can only cum from indirect stimulation on my clit and it’s so frustrating! Every time I have sex I have to explain that plain rubbing just hurts and they don’t know what to do. And I don’t know either, it’s not like I can hump a pillow while getting fucked 😶 I just wanna have good sex and cum Oloni 😭
7. July 2018
Hey love! Don’t be frustrated, the positive in this is that you KNOW how you like to be stimulated. Now all that needs to happen is that you teach your sexual partner how you like to be pleasured, be patient and practice and if he’s dedicated to learning about your body and pleasing you, you’ll see improvements during intimacy. I’d also suggest investing a small sex toy, such as a vibrating bullet which is amazing to use during penetration.
Oloni
I’m seeing this guy and basically we hookup every time we meet. I don’t know if we’re exclusive or anything but he gives me money every time I’m leaving. On the first date, he suggested I hit him up whenever I needed a cash favor and he does same when he wants sex. I’m in a bit of a pinch and I want to take him up on that but idk I haven’t done it before … should I be content with what I’m already getting or should I ask for more this one time? And I’d prefer to do it over text but we barely text so that may turn awkward… how would I go about it in person?
4. July 2018
This doesn’t seem like exclusivity to me. It sounds like hook ups which benefit both parties. Ask him in person if he’s sleeping with anyone else, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with doing so… just bring it up in conversation!
Oloni
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