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This isn’t uncommon. I’ve heard from people who have been in a similar situation, by having a drop in their libido. It’s best you speak to your partner and suggest seeing a qualified sex therapist who can help. I really hope it works out. Oloni Would he be okay if you slept with someone else also, or is the hall pass for him alone? Because a lot of hetero men will scream hall pass or ffm threesome, but when this idea of you having your back blown out by another man is proposed, they lose their senses. I too believe he probably wants permission to cheat, but he could also want to see if you’d eventually be open to the idea, you know him better than I do. Having an open relationship is not a new concept to many romantic commitments. In fact, non-monogamous relationships are usually more honest. It’d be best to revisit the topic and hearing him out completely so you know exactly where his mind is at. Also, being with someone for a year doesn’t mean that you can’t have a hall pass. They’re not strictly for people who have been with each other for 15 years and wanna spice things up. Saying this, I still don’t trust his intentions, so talk to him and ask him. As for your bf being with you forever and not cheating, I can’t tell you that, only he can. Keep me posted. Oloni Sis leave this man alone. He’s fresh out of jail, let him breathe and move on. Oloni He’s probably shy or not sure if he can make a move. Why not make a signal yourself? Invite him in for a kiss by the use of body language and pull a Megan from Love Island. Oloni Hey my love! It’s actually annoying when you tell men one thing and they don’t listen. First, I think it’s amazing you’ve chosen to be celibate. It shows strength that I hope you’re empowered by. When it comes to your bf, you either need to let him go or revisit the topic and have a very deep conversation about it, so he understands what lines not to cross when it comes to romantic intimacy. I don’t know if you’re open to kissing, but against other forms of touching. Whatever it is you need to clarify it, so he understands and respects it. If you notice the same pattern, then it’s clear you’re not on the same page at all. You need to be with someone who has the same values as you sexually and will not try to tempt you or even make you question your celibacy. I really do hope it works out! Oloni
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