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Hey Oloni. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now but I have never orgasmed when we have sex or any kind of foreplay. We’ve tried different positions and all types of foreplay and nothing has worked. I know it’s possible because I can do it solo but it’s becoming frustrating that our sex life as a couple just isn’t satisfying me completely even though I still enjoy it when we have sex. Do you have any advice?
25. July 2018
Hey love! Keep fighting for that orgasm and DO not lose hope. It’s a known fact that a lot of women find it hard to climax through penetrative sex.
If you’re able to reach an orgasm through solo play, try bringing a sex toy to the bedroom for clitoral stimulation. Ask him to use it during foreplay and you can use it during penetration. A great position to use it would be doggy-style.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, my boyfriend and I always make sure we practice safe sex even when having oral sex. The problem is I give him head using a condom and he doesn’t find it enjoyable. I don’t want to stop using condoms so what should I do?
25. July 2018
There are several different condoms available which you could use so it feels pleasurable for him. Explore your choices and get regular STI check ups so you know whether or not it’s safe to have oral sex without a condom.
Oloni
Hey Oloni! Been with my boyfriend a year now and he is a truly great guy. He is 33 and I’m 21. But the thing is mans got two babies with two different women, and I just want to know if you think there is a chance we could still have a real future together? Hoping for a reply o😊
25. July 2018
Honestly, no. You’re way too young to be dealing with this father of two for two different women.
Please find a guy between 22-26 without a child.
Oloni
Dear Oloni, I met this guy from London a few weeks ago on Tinder. We went out for drinks and ended up having sex. After that we hung out twice before he left because he’s always busy. I went to London to visit family and asked him if we could hang out again but he pied me again and told me he had things to do. I always text him first and I feel like I’m doing too much. Should I just let him go and stop talking to him?
25. July 2018
Hey hun, you guys just hooked up. He’s not after anything more. Just move on and try a new dating app like Happn.
Oloni
Hey Oloni, my bf sucks at communication or letting me know when he’s busy. For example if I call him now and he’s working on something he won’t get back to me until the next day, to the point that I can go a whole day without hearing from him. I don’t think he’s cheating because we share locations, but it’s causing problems for us since I have to keep complaining about the same thing over and over. Every single time he apologizes and promises to do better but now he’s been telling me to choose my battles and let it go sometimes. Should I just cut my losses? I feel like a person who doesn’t see it as respectful to get back to their partner at least within the same day might end up being a loss? Outside of that he almost makes promises and doesn’t keep them and says he’ll do things and never follows through.
25. July 2018
If you’ve made the same complaint and he doesn’t listen.. either deal with it or leave.
Oloni
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