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Hi Oloni, my boyfriend and I always make sure we practice safe sex even when having oral sex. The problem is I give him head using a condom and he doesn’t find it enjoyable. I don’t want to stop using condoms so what should I do?
25. July 2018
There are several different condoms available which you could use so it feels pleasurable for him. Explore your choices and get regular STI check ups so you know whether or not it’s safe to have oral sex without a condom.
Oloni
Hey Oloni! Been with my boyfriend a year now and he is a truly great guy. He is 33 and I’m 21. But the thing is mans got two babies with two different women, and I just want to know if you think there is a chance we could still have a real future together? Hoping for a reply o😊
25. July 2018
Honestly, no. You’re way too young to be dealing with this father of two for two different women.
Please find a guy between 22-26 without a child.
Oloni
Dear Oloni, I met this guy from London a few weeks ago on Tinder. We went out for drinks and ended up having sex. After that we hung out twice before he left because he’s always busy. I went to London to visit family and asked him if we could hang out again but he pied me again and told me he had things to do. I always text him first and I feel like I’m doing too much. Should I just let him go and stop talking to him?
25. July 2018
Hey hun, you guys just hooked up. He’s not after anything more. Just move on and try a new dating app like Happn.
Oloni
Hey Oloni, my bf sucks at communication or letting me know when he’s busy. For example if I call him now and he’s working on something he won’t get back to me until the next day, to the point that I can go a whole day without hearing from him. I don’t think he’s cheating because we share locations, but it’s causing problems for us since I have to keep complaining about the same thing over and over. Every single time he apologizes and promises to do better but now he’s been telling me to choose my battles and let it go sometimes. Should I just cut my losses? I feel like a person who doesn’t see it as respectful to get back to their partner at least within the same day might end up being a loss? Outside of that he almost makes promises and doesn’t keep them and says he’ll do things and never follows through.
25. July 2018
If you’ve made the same complaint and he doesn’t listen.. either deal with it or leave.
Oloni
So I’ve been talking to this amazing Ghanaian guy (I am Nigerian). at first I wanted to cut him off because he is 5ft7 and I am 5ft6 and not physically attractive to him..but with time I’ve gotten to like him and sex is great. I have not brought him around my mom because I know she will talk shit (my siblings think he’s cool). I have dated tall and attractive guys but never worked out. I tried breaking up with him one time coz I felt I should not settle even if he’s a sweet man but attraction is not fulfilling and I think he should also be with someone that loves him wholeheartedly for him . I was in tears for days and had to apologize and he took me back. how much should your family’s opinion play in your life ? my mom and her 2 sisters have poor marriages I wish they can all just get a divorce..should I leave a man because he does not fit into society’s tall dark and handsome range ? he makes me so happy and he says i do the same. I still would have preferred if he was a bit taller and a little bit bigger than I am..
25. July 2018
It seems like you’re forcing yourself to like him due to what you’ve seen the women in your family go through.
If you’re not attracted to him, let the brother go so a woman who will adore him can be with him. You’re wasting each others time and it’s not fair.
If attraction is a big box which needs to be ticked by you, then bear that in mind the minute you begin to get to know someone romantically.
As for what your family think, I don’t believe they should have a final say on someone you’d like to be with for good.
I hope you both find the happiness you’re searching for. Let him down easy.
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