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What does it mean when you meet a guy, it’s evident that you are attracted to each other, you talk on Whatsapp every single day and after a month he still hasn’t even asked you on a date?
27. May 2015
He’s just not that into you.
Hey oloni, I’m 22 & married to the love of my life. We have 4 beautiful children together. My oldest is 6, and the other two are 5 & 3. I’ve recently had another and he is just 4 months old. I found out I’m 6 weeks pregnant, and I want more children but I do not physically or emotionally have the energy to bring another child into the world. My husband is very religious and will expect me to have the child. He’s told me he wanted 6 children in total. I’ve not told my husband and I don’t know what to do or where to turn. Please help. -Sanita.
26. May 2015
Hey Sanita, I’m sorry to hear about how you’re feeling, but the truth is this is your husband, your lover for life and you have to let him know, you have to speak up about your pregnancy.
A lot of women are going through this and simply cannot physically/emotionally handle the pressure of having more kids. As well as telling him about your new pregnancy, I think you should let him know HOW this is making you feel. It’s diffucult, but this shouldn’t be ignored or done to satisfy his wishes. I really do hope things work out.
I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 years now and I’ve basically been unhappy for two years but I love him and don’t want to give up on this. I’m currently pregnant with his child and he’s constantly telling me I’m going to be a bad mother and my child doesn’t deserve to have a mom like me. Also, he has told me that this it’s the worst relationship he’s ever been in. After everything is said and done, he tells me he doesn’t mean any of it but it hurts me so much and it happens all the time. Should I end it or try to make things work for the sake of our child?
26. May 2015
This isn’t healthy for you & the words he uses are the last things you need to hear. You’re supposed to be around those who will support & uplift you through this time. Things are clearly not good and I doubt with his very bad attitude it will get better. I’m sure you know the answer to this love.
Hi Oloni, I met this guy a few months ago and he was absolutely lovely,well mannered and polite as guys tend to be. We went on a few dates, he suggested I meet his mum and friends until he suddenly stopped calling or messaging me. Baring in mind he would usually wake me up with a phone call or text I found this rather strange. To cut the story short,he randomly messaged me a while back with the ‘I miss you’ sob story. Every time he’s called me he’s made no effort to meet up and talk in person,but instead constantly blocks me then calls 3 weeks later, then calls means blocks me again. I’m not sure whether he’s battling personal issues,or he wants to prevent me from dating other guys by coming in and out of my life.
26. May 2015
Urgh return the favour by blocking him back. He’s toying with your emotions.
Hey Oloni I’m currently talking to a guy who’s significantly older than me. I don’t see the issue but my friends keep making reference to his age. It’s kinda putting me off him how can I gently tell them to stop?
26. May 2015
You have bad friends & need to tell them how you feel about it. If YOU do not have a problem with his age, you need to politely ask them to mind their own business. It’s not them dating him.
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