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Hi Oloni. Please answer this or put this as question of the day. I need all the advice I can get tbf. Feeling so hopeless and not knowing what to do, I don’t want to hurt anybody. I cry about this everyday and need some advice. So basically I’ve been with my bf for almost 2 years now and things were great at first but now I just feel like we’re slowly drifting and that there’s nothing to talk about or nothing left (no love) I love him so much but at the same time we barely speak in the day now cos there’s nothing to talk about and this frustrates me also alor has gone on throughout our relationship but I have stuck with him- even if he didn’t deserve it. This guy recently inboxed me and started talking to me, it just made me think of that honey moon stage me and my bf used to have and now we don’t have that anymore I really miss it. So here I am chatting to this guy having jokes but I feel so guilty. I guess I could never treat a guy bad the way they have treated me. But this guy seems really nice. My point is what do I do with my bf? I’m defo not the same happy, joking person I was before. I feel drained. I have tried to talk to him many times before and he sees it as, and I quote “a pointless argument” tried to break it off the other week but because he had family issues and was stressed out I thought I’d be polite and leave it. Is this relationship worth saving? Sometimes I feel bad cos he makes random effort. Sorry for the long essay but I just wanted to say you’re doing a great job giving advice to others out there, you’re doing a great job and never stop it. 🙂
8. June 2015
Hey love, this relationship has stressed you out and from what you’ve explained it’s clear you’re tired and have very little left to give. I understand he’s going through his own drama, but you have to leave this relationship, you and I both know that it no longer serves you well.
You’re so unhappy that the attention of another male is allowing you to reminisce about someone you’re still WITH. What does that mean? What does that show? Do relationships have their bumps? Yes, plenty of relationships do, but if you feel like you’ve given your all to something that isn’t quite the same, then perhaps you need to take a step back and leave it alone.
My long term partner has asked me too live with. I am willing to make this commitment BUT I want too know his intention, is this because he want me too live with him because he’s lonely or becuase this is a start of building our future together. But I was wondering how should I phrase the question when I am asking him.
8. June 2015
You sit him down and speak to him. ‘I know you want us to live together, but I’d like to know why this idea came to mind?’ Listen to what he says and carry on your discussion from there.
Hi Oloni, my boyfriend never wants to take pictures with me and it really bothers me to the extent that I think he doesn’t find me attractive. He does however take pictures with other people and doesn’t complain when they post it on social media sites such as facebook. I’m literally at my wits end and have no idea how i should handle the situation.
8. June 2015
Don’t go crazy over something you can discuss with him. Some people are private when it comes to relationships in comparison to friendships.
so I talk to this guy for about a good seven months and we don’t talk as much now because it’s the summer & we’re both working. We’re not in a relationship, but we have had intercourse. The problem is when I ask him if he wants a relationship, he told me no, but the way I can makes him want to be with me. But then if, I talk to other guys and hang out with other guus, he gets mad & somewhat jealous. I like him, but I don’t want to wait around for him to see what is in front of him, but If I start talking
8. June 2015
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I’m seeing this guy but his exes and other female friends are too involved in his life; one even has a tattoo of his name on her boob. He knows they care about him and he uses it to get them to do him massive favours. I’m not comfortable with it as they have ulterior motives but at the same time i don’t want to tell him how to live his life. What should I do ?
8. June 2015
You can’t tell him how to live his life and this just sounds like a bunch of red flags you’re trying to ignore.
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