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Hi I’ve been seeing this guy in uni for about 7 month and due to his pior experience with girls he is finding it hard to trust me, like I haven’t been to his flat before and he’s always at mine and he has never taken me out cause he said that he ain’t trying to be bait and let people no his where about yeah proper paranoid. But anyways when he is with me I no for a fact he’s got feelings and I’m a priority but my own paranoia keep question these little bumps. He’s not active on social media, so it not like I can even do my own investigation and I am definitely not trying be used. So do I relax and see what happened after uni or just pressure him for the things I want and see what happens
9. June 2015
Unless he’s on some sort of run, his excuses sound very silly and scream ‘I dont want to spend money on you’. 7 months? This sort of patience should not be allowed and I highly doubt anything positive will come from this.
Hey Oloni, all my school life I lived in a all white area and its only when I came to Uni I’ve been hanging around other black people. It was a bit of a shock in first year as all I was used to was white my white friends but over Uni I have started mingling more with other social groups. Because of this, all my past relationships have been with white girls, and black girls seem to judge me because of that. Where I lived, in my social circle there wasnt any. People forget that the whole UK isnt as diverse as London. I really do want a black girlfriend and I always thought I would find one on my course, but my course is basically 98% male dominated. Uni is now over in a few weeks and family are always asking me about my relationship status as my siblings seem to have all found their other halves at Uni and started their lives after it.
9. June 2015
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Hi Oloni. Basically I have a really fucked up dilemma. I was with my ex for like 2 years on and off. It was the real deal and we were fully in love. However we were to young and the commitment we expected didn’t match our maturity level. We both did dumb things eg cheating talking bad to eachother etc. We broke up but I always wanted to get back with her. Always initiating convo telling her I love her etc. For over a year after a break up we would get together often and have sex do couple stuff etc. Until she revealed to me that she was still bitter and couldn’t have contact with me because she was stuck in a rut emotionally. That was about 4 months ago. Here is the plot twist. In that time I’ve landed my dream job, on the back of that I’ve launched a few projects I was working on whilst I was with her that have given me some online notoriety. It’s also led to me being invited to speak at a few events, some of which she was present at. I’ve also started boxing again and in quite good shape physically. I’m paid extremely well whereas before with her I was kind of broke. Now she has come back to me recently saying she can look past all my past mistakes and work things out with me. She tells me now how she loves me so much and that it has been painful being with out me. I’m not sure how much I can trust this as previously she was bitter for over a year and now within a few months she can look past everything. Is this too much of a coincidence? I do still love her but is she just seeing my success and wanting to be involved because of that. If I was still working in a bar she wouldn’t see me at these events or on youtube so I don’t know if she would think to get in touch. I really don’t know what to do, in an ideal world we’d get back together.
9. June 2015
This seems like you need to have a proper think and conversation. I don’t know her but you do. Is it in her nature to somewhat use people when it benefits her? Are these traits that she holds? Some people usually know what their partners are like in terms of that aspect. Talk with her and ask what’s changed. If the relationship was already bumpy, with a history of unhealthy behaviour no amount of success will make this a fairy tale ending.
Hey, yesterday you got a message from a lady asking about the LGBT community amongst other things. As a member myself, I thought I’d just share. If she goes on Plenty of Fish there are loads on there, LOADS. London Pride is June 27th, there will be a lot of gay raves on this weekend. Not that I’m a promoter but ‘Bad B*tches’ is a good race to start at. It’s in Vauxhall. Hope this finds her well. We need new faces lol.
9. June 2015
Thank you so much for sharing. It’s truley appreciated.
I think I’m sexually attracted to my friend. I imagine myself having sex with her sometimes and I don’t know if it’s weird. I had a dream about it too and sometimes I get hints from her but I’m not sure what to do next. Advice? I’m a girl too
9. June 2015
You’d have to describe the type of hints you get from your friend. Does she know about your sexual preference? The best advice I can give is to make sure you’re really ready if you want to tell her. Some people do have thoughts about sleeping with their friends, but half the time it’s a phase, so make sure it’s not just one.
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