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PLEASE HELP!!! URGENT! Hi Oloni. I’m worried about my best friend. Her boyfriend has previously been violent with her (dragged her by the hair, thrown her around, threatened to hit her) and there was an incident where he was violent with her which resulted in her breaking up with him (he had been violent prior to this incident) she stopped talking to him but they go to the same uni so I know it’s not easy to avoid him and now they’ve started talking again and I think they’re back together. After the incident I told her to cut off contact with him because he clearly needs help but obviously she didn’t listen. She loves him but that doesn’t mean you should go back to someone that physically hurts you. Everything is fine with them for now but I don’t want it to get to a point where they have disagreements like before and he actually does end up hitting her or worse because the incident was over something so small so just imagine a big argument. I’m at a different uni so I wouldn’t be able to get to her quickly if something did happen. Please help, I don’t know what to do. Maybe he has changed because he realised he will lose her but I don’t want to take that risk. What should I do? Her parents know about the incident but do not know they are back together.
18. June 2015
There’s nothing I or anyone else can do about this but your friend. If she needs you, just be there. You can’t help her if she wont help herself. Abusive relationships can#t be dealt with from outsiders, not even friends or family. All you can do is continue report him to the police if you see his has harmed her.
My girlfriend is overly emotional and moody. She complains about anything and everything. Since we are way past the honeymoon period it is no longer something I can just live with. She complains if I see my friends and complains if I leave my shoes in the wrong place. Seriously anything. I sat her down and told her basically to just stop it. Its got to the point where whenever she complains or gets upset i just ignore or don’t care because its like the boy who cried wolf. She now is taking it personally and is withdrawn because she thinks I dont care about her when the opposite is true. Its just that I’m not a child minder and shouldn’t have to deal with that kind of BS. How do I stop this because the other day she even said that if I don’t show concern she will find someone that will. How do I make her see that it isn’t me with the problem (I’m aware of how conceited that sounds). How do I show her that if she just behaves emotionally stable and doesn’t complain if I show up at her house at 4:15 as opposed to 4 when I said I’d be there (yes this did happen) then everything would be perfect.
18. June 2015
The honeymoon period is like being on probation at work, you don’t really know your employees true colours yet. However I’m sure you dated for a bit before you both committed to each other. Have another talk and express how you feel. Saying things like how she’ll find someone else shows that she’s also reaching her breaking point. You need to get to the bottom of what is making you both act the way you do. Are you compromising? Are you listening?
Hi, I have been going out with a guy for almost two years now but he has become so friend oriented, always playing FIFA with his friends, always going to chill with them. Basically spending most of his time with his friends. 90% of the time that I go to his house he will leave me to be with his friends yet i’m still here. I’m thinking to just end it because I deserve better! Am I overreacting? Bare in mind he was NEVER like this. What do you think I should do? All opinions are welcome.
18. June 2015
This would put any woman off. Talk to him about it, let him know unacceptable you find it and give him a chance to change things.
Do you think Tinder is a good place to meet and talk to guys? A lot of people see it as a hook up site and that’s not really what I’m looking for. If not what else would you recommend (that’s free please lol)
18. June 2015
Tinder is good, but don’t use one, use them all. Any site/app can be used for hook ups.
Me and this guy have so much history together, he got me pregnant a couple of years ago but I got rid of it because he went to jail for 3 1/2 years. When he came out of jail we slept together now I find out the girl he cheated on me with is pregnant with his baby (she’s going to drop soon) meaning he had unprotected sex with me knowing she was pregnant. Should I tell her? If I tell her would that make me bitter?
18. June 2015
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