Tell him if it makes you uncomfortable, but don’t expect him to change completely. If you don’t like it perhaps you need to think about the nature of the relationship.

Talk about how this makes you feel by addressing what you’ve noticed. You have a right to want to feel appreciated through kind gestures from time to time, that’s part of what it means to be in a relationship. You’re also not his wife so stop handling his financial hardship, that isn’t your job as a girlfriend.

I always ask people to remain anonymous, but I would really prefer if you could e-mail me so we could speak properly. You’re suffering in silence out of fear, when this isn’t your fault. You have done nothing wrong. I understand why you don’t want to tell your friend but she doesn’t come before you, her family does not come before you. This needs to be reported and he should not be able to get away with what he did. As for being pregnant, the decision is yours. Many victims of rape have dealt with this in their own way. However I’d seriously advice you see a councillor who can give you professional attention. I’m so sorry to hear what you’ve went through.

Eh you can’t keep lying just because he’s unable to take criticism. He’s not having sex with himself, your body matters too, so if there are things you’d prefer then tell him. What does your body enjoy the most? Longer foreplay? oral sex? Let him know. His pride does not come first or even second here. Do understand this however, orgasms do not ALWAYS happen for women whilst having sex.

If he’s not answering your calls after two weeks he’s clocked out of the relationship without being vocal about it. If you know anyone close to him friend or relative, contact them, just to make sure he’s okay and that nothing crazy has happened.