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Dear oloni, I’ve been dating thisw guy for a while and I think he uses sex as a weapon. Without going into detail, he used to go down on me all the time, but one time he started going really slow almost hesitant. I freaked out because I thought something was wrong down there and he just laughed. He hasn’t gone down since though. I have a pretty high sex drive and he told me did too. But now it’s like sex every couple of days. It’s freaking me out and messing with my self confidence, but I think he finds I
7. July 2015
You should really just tell him this. If it’s getting to you, ask him what’s up. Listen to what he has to say, but make sure you ask the right questions.
Such as ‘Hey Peter, I wanted to know if everything is okay between us sexually? I’ve noticed that…xyz’
Hi, I’ve been seeing this guy for a year now and we still haven’t progressed into a relationship. We talk everyday on the phone and get along really well . He is always asking me to do things for him however he never does anything for me . I’m unsure if he actually likes me or whether he just uses me because I’m convenient. I don’t know if I should stop talking to him as I really seeing us progressing. Maybe he doesn’t have the funds to treat me however that’s not a problem I just wish he’d tell me rather than me thinking he doesn’t care about me
6. July 2015
Drop him, this guy is not here to stay.
Hi Oloni, I’m a young male who has never been in a relationship however I have been actively looking. My problem is that all females seem to have an issue or don’t like aspects of me such as religion, height, skin tone (yes skin tone), and myself being well-spoken. And it seems like that I’m just “Nice Guy But…” kind of guy. What would you suggest I do?
5. July 2015
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**help!!** Hi Oloni. Basically I’ve been friends with a guy for a LONG time. Recently he’s told me that he has feelings for me and I think I may have feelings for him too. He’s always been a great friend and we’ve always had a really good relationship. The problem now is, he has a child with his ex girlfriend a few years back, and the mothers child is really something. She uses the child as a weapon against him and because of that he finds it hard to COMPLETELY break things off with her, but I know for a fact it’s only because he really loves his child. What do I do?
4. July 2015
He has his own issues, and honestly you need to leave him to it till he can finally sort them out. You shouldn’t be dealing with such drama at the early stages of the rshp. Have a talk with him because this won’t get any better, especially if you commit to something which isn’t great at the moment. There might be more to the story of the mother of his child behaving in a nasty way, you have no clue. However right now you need to think long term and ask yourself if the relationship has potential to work.
My man of a few years wont go down on me because he thinks its disgusting and has never done it before or will apparently. But he expects me to do it and knows I have once before him so throws that in my face when I refuse. Help?!
4. July 2015
You have to explain to him that you’re not being sexually satisfied. You can’t force him to do it and he can’t force you either. Just because you’ve done it before does not make you obligated to do it again. Have a conversation and find out if there are ways around it. Make it interesting by asking if you can get some edible lubricant so it’s becomes more enjoyable on his part.
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