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Hi Oloni. Does it make you vain if you want your partner to look good?
26. August 2015
Nope, just make sure you’re not in denial of your shallowness
Hi oloni. I basically knew this guy for about a couple of years now, we are just friends. We don’t see each other often but when we do the convos flow and I feel there’s something there. I don’t have his number and I don’t know if I’ll ever see him now. Do you think it will be weird messaging him. Getting his number off a friend? I’m not sure what to do but I’m going university now and I don’t want to let this slip. How do I approach this situation.
26. August 2015
There’s nothing weird about it, just make sure you ask for permission when getting the number.
hi Oloni I’m a girl and I have honestly just given up with love completely. Recently I gave my ex a chance as he said he wants us together to get to know each other all over again, take me put take me out on dates and be there for me. That failed and he didn’t do any of what he said he would. he ended up just using me for oral sex just “chilling” at his house :/. I was so hurt, angry and disappointed but another guy in the past who I used to like came into contact with me recently, and we didn’t work previously because I was still in love with my ex. Anyway I gave him a chance because he said he like liked me so much and wants to make things official soon
26. August 2015
Cut of your ex completely, and no one can use you for sex unless you did not want part of it. You’re mad because the relationship was not able to develop into something more. Right now it seems like you need a 3 month break from the dating world, just a little one, so you’re able to think about what it is you would like to find in the opposite sex, so you don’t fall for the words and promises of men who don’t seem to be serious.
Hi Oloni, during this past year at while at uni I was speaking to this girl on a friendly basis with no agenda, just normal talking because I’m a sociable person. The more we spoke she was giving signals that she was showing a small interest in me so I thought there was no harm in trying to progress things. The signals became more clearer in the convos to the point where she was instigating naughty conversations. She was saying she wants to do x,y and z with me and as a boy it’s hard to resist. She promised to meet up with me in advance and when the day came she all of a sudden makes up a bs excuse, I gave her a solution to it but she wouldn’t respond. That annoyed me slightly and I was even more annoyed she had the audacity to talk to me another day like she didn’t keep her promise. I haven’t seen or spoken to her since and when I get chance to see her person I’m planning to confront her about the “dreams” she was selling me directly. Is right for me to confront her in person directly about what she did or let it go
26. August 2015
Let it go, she doesn’t owe you anything.
Hey, basically I’m chatting to this girl and things are going well, she’s looking like potential bae. but she’s got a big brother and he’s seen me with herbefore and more than once this guy has tried to grill me and sheg us, obviously i know he wants to protect but i respect her and aint trying to hurt her. What should i do to try show this guy, i’ll respect her cause i think sooner or later we’ll clash if he dont chi
26. August 2015
Her brother shouldn’t be getting involved in the relationship you’re trying to build with his sister. He’s interfering and quite clearly making you uncomfortable, so speak about it with her.
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