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Hey Oloni, I’ve recently being considering having a sugar daddy because things are really hard for me right now ( rent, bills etc) i am a full time student with a part time job which pays me next to nothing. I can barely afford to take care of myself. I have a boyfriend of 2 years who I love very much but cannot support me financially. How can I start an agreement with a sugar daddy while still in a relationship? I considered talking to my boyfriend about it but he is the jealous type and probably wouldn’t like the idea of it. Should I still go ahead and get a sugar daddy with the hope of him never finding out? Or continue to struggle? What do you suggest?
30. June 2019
Baby girl if you’re in a monogamous relationship then you’re going to have to stick to that. If your boyfriend can’t do what you really need from a man right now, break up with him and let him find someone else. When you’ve done that, we can revisit this topic.
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Hi Oloni, So I’m dating this guy for about 10 months now and he left for Malaysia in february to do his internship there. So now I’m in a long distance relationship. Since he’s been there he’s met some new people and I’m happy for him but there’s this one girl whom he’s told me about once. And when he did he said that she was from another country but I found out on her instagram that she’s from the same country as us! He also said that she has a boyfriend and that her boyfriend doesn’t like her going out, whilst in Malaysia, with just boys. But here’s the thing: he just posted a picture on the gram and she commented under it saying that he should cover up. Malaysia is hot and my boyfriend has a nice body.. I just don’t think it’s appropriate. And the other thing that really just pisses me of is that when I comment under his pictures he never responds but just likes it but on her comment they had a full on conversation! Should I be worried?
30. June 2019
To the average person this would be seen as slightly petty, but SIS I get it. It’s all to fishy. At the end of the day he’s your man and you’re his girl. If you notice something speak UP and let him know what you found out.
Yes you found her page and clocked she actually lives here. Why did you lie? Or is something missing?
Why is he having full convos with women who aren’t you, when you’re the one doing LD with him?
If things don’t change, I’d honestly rethink this relationship as people in long distance-ships tend to usually work harder to maintain their relationship. He’s acting quite suspicious and her comment can be seen as inappropriate.
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Hey Oloni, me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 and a half years and live together. Lately I feel like all we do is argue and that he doesn’t show any interest in my life. I have asked him about it and told him how I feel and he just says that I’m wrong and it leads to big arguments about whether we should even be together. He never wants to visit my friends or family but always wants me to come and see his which I don’t think is fair. He also has anxiety/depression and has recently come off his medication (without consulting a doctor) which I think is a bad idea and is making him irritable and not nice to be around (obviously I know it’s withdrawal). I’m not sure what to do with our relationship as we do both love each other but we both want different things later on in life – he really wants kids and I do not. I feel a bit drained and like nothing is going to change as it’s been going on for so long. What would you do in this situation? Should I stay and keep trying to work things out or give up?
30. June 2019
Hey, it sounds like you’ve been trying for a long time, but now things really do need to come to an end. You’re not happy and he clearly isn’t. There’s just a cycle and it sounds as though one of you is scared to break it and walk away from what’s left of this relationship. But why? Being with someone for a long time or because they have a mental health issue isn’t grounds for staying in a relationship together. You can still care for him and help without being romantically involved with each other. Find out why he’s stopped taking his medication, communicate your concerns!
Good luck
Oloni
Hi Oloni, so me and my boyfriend have been together for about 3 months. Things are alright I guess apart from him being such a flirty character and can never just admit that it’s wrong. But what I fear is that my man will find someone better and leave me. What I mean by this is that I am not his type in any way shape or form. He has a type. He likes the lightskin girls, curly hair, slim or slim thick. I on the other hand dont really have curves. I’m quite chubby. I’m also darkskin. He keeps saying that if he wasn’t attracted to me he wouldn’t have asked me to be his girl. But he stays making new female lightskin friends who are his type to the t. I think he’s made about 6 of them ‘friends’ since we’ve been together. He’s always watching all the lightskin girls that we see when we’re out. I’ve mentioned it to him but he still does it. He’s also been acting a bit distant with me lately so to me it just scares me. I’m scared that one day he’s just going to find the perfect lightskin girl that talks her way into his pants or something. I don’t know what I should do
27. June 2019
I completely understand your worries. It’s just weird for a man who’s in a relationship to make new female friendships. Especially when the friendship has no purpose. These women seem like options in my eyes and it’s something you need to talk about with him, because it’s clearly making you insecure. The fact that they all look similar is also very telling, so your concerns make sense. Talk to him and let him know that this is hindering your relationship.
Is it a good idea to initiate a conversation with a guy about his intentions? I’ve been speaking to a guy for a couple months now; we’ve been on a couple dates which have literally been perfect and had amazing sex a couple times also. Not saying I have feelings for him but I’m very interested. However sometimes I feel like I’m receiving mixed signals. When I’m with him everything is perfect I actually feel like he wants me but when we’re apart we don’t speak that much. I haven’t seen him in about a month so I started thinking maybe he thinks I just want to have sex because 2/3 times we’ve slept together I did initiate it, I’m starting to feel he’s not as interested but I still feel like there’s a small chance that he is – due to previous conversations. I’m honestly stuck, not sure if I should ask if he’s interested or how to go about asking him. My friends are no help some tell me to ask and some tell me not to lol. I can’t go with my gut instinct because it tells me different things each day. Please help.
24. June 2019
You haven’t seen him in a month. He’s not interested love.
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