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why does every bitter single girl advise the girl in the dilemmas to leave her man lol. no one ever suggests actual help on mending a relationship. everyday leave leave , what happened to communication and working through things with a partner? even if leaving is suggested, it should be done so with empathy, we’ve all been in situations with a man we love who ain’t acting right, we are women, be more sympathetic because a lot of these women who write to you are clearly in love and have big hearts….
28. December 2016
You’re annoying.
Ebi
Dear Oloni, I’ve been sleeping with this guy for a few months now and I’ve made it clear recently I want something serious. He told me he wants to be more then just friends with benefits with me but also wants to be single. I don’t know what to do because I don’t want to lose him but he is giving me mixed signals.
28. December 2016
Hey,
Lol this guy is waffling. If a relationship is what you want, leave and find you a man who wants the same.
Ebi
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28. December 2016
Hi oloni i met this guy last year but at the time he had a gf, but we ended up meeting up and making out we didn’t have sex though because i didn’t really trust him plus we weren’t in a relationship but he kept telling me he was going to leave his gf for me and that he was going to move to my city. After we met up he went back and started acting kind of distant and ignoring my calls etc.. So i stopped calling, after a few months i met this amazing guy he loves me so much we are in a relationship now and all he ever wants is for me to be happy.. Now the former guy hits me up and tells me he has moved to my city now & we start talking again ( i only replied because my current bf and i were having some issues and i wanted to talk to someone) now my bf and i have resolved our issues but he also told me that he isn’t comfortable with me talking to the former guy, I just want to ask is he right to feel that way and am i being selfish?
28. December 2016
Hey,
Yes your boyfriend is right. Cut that enemy of progress off.
Ebi
my boyfriend keeps bringing up us having a 3some and at first i thought it was jokingly but he’s actually talking about planning one seriously! I’ve asked him if he thinks it’s because our sex life isn’t great and he’s tried to assure me that isn’t the reason. he’s previously had one when he was younger and wants to spice things up? I’ve told him no way but he still brings it up and makes me feel like i’m boring him sexually. I’ve noticed since he’s seen that i don’t want to do that he’s been doing less in the bedroom and “jokingly” asking how i’d feel if he slept with someone else! Do you think this is grounds to break up with him, I don’t know how to deal with this
27. December 2016
Your boyfriend is playing with fire, with his very silly and stupid jokes. Was he expecting you to laugh? Let him know exactly what would happen if he ever slept with another person.
Him communicating that he’d like to try a new sexual activity is fine, but once you make up your mind and decline, it becomes unfair for him to make you feel like less in the bedroom.
Have a conversation with him and tell him how his remarks have made you feel.
There are numerous ways of spicing up your sex life without adding another person to the bedroom. You can try watching porn together, including sex toys, dressing up (not lingerie, think .. nurse/school girl/police) having sex in random places. There’s so much more to enjoying your sexuality, without the need of another woman’s presence.
You can also read about other couples and their threesome experience over here
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