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Hi Oloni, 3 months ago I told my FwB that I loved him during sex. It kinda just slipped out and I felt so awkward at first but to my surprise, he responded with “I’m glad you do” and later sent a text saying “I love you more”. I thought we were finally making progress, but till this date, we’re still in the same routine – he picks me up, we have great sex, he drops me home. He’s a lovely guy, I adore him, but I’m starting to think that he just enjoys having me wrapped around his finger. We’ve been FwB for 2 years and don’t get me wrong I’ve loved every minute of it but we’re not getting any younger lol. I’m looking for a companion to marry, have kids with etc, not just sex. Do you think it’s time for me to let him go? 🙁
30. December 2016
Anything said during sex, ESPECIALLY to a sex buddy doesn’t count. I don’t think he has you wrapped around his finger, he’s just still comitted to the arrangement you both have.
The issue here is that YOU have developed feelings for him. Either tell him or quit what you have going on before you get hurt.
Oloni
I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years and I’m happy with him but there’s just one thing…We always told one another that if we ever wanted to try something knew, we should speak on it and try it because we try to please one another. And that’s it exactly what I did. Because I’m tired on doing the same old same old, it’s beginning to make me very unattracted towards him sexually. I really don’t know what to do at this point. The sex isn’t the same..the head isn’t the same it just overall sucks. I literally have to fake my moans and it sucks. I mean, I can only vocalize how I feel so much it’s driving me to the point where I’m started to ask myself “Should I just cheat on him? But stay with him since I do love him?”
30. December 2016
Hey hun, if you’ve spoken about it before with him, it’s time to take action together. There are many ways you can help improve your sex life… cheating isn’t one of them. The fact that this is even an option to you is somewhat worrying and leads to me to actually wonder if your heart is truly commited.
Oloni
Started talking to this guy off tinder.. we hit it off really. We’re both Nigerian and vibes really well. We were planning to meet up but every time he would make an excuse.. then out of nowhere he disappears for like 2 weeks. Doesn’t respond to me text or calls at all. Then calls me at 2am as if nothing is wrong. I asked him where has he been and he just tells me he’s going through personal things (which he won’t discuss with me) and that he has been working. I’ve lost interest because of all this but he continues to hmu and a part of me wants to see where this goes but I don’t want him to waste my time again.
30. December 2016
He’s wasting your time now, let this go.
Oloni
I have never been sexually attracted to a female (I am female), of course I’ve thought another woman is pretty like we all do, but nothing more. Genuinely I am only interested in men and the thought of going with a woman does nothing for me but whenever I watch porn I can only get off to woman on woman activity, nothing else interests me. Is this normal
30. December 2016
Yeah, it’s normal i personally know some women who only enjoy lesbian porn even though they’re straight.
Oloni
I cheated on my boyfriend but it didn’t mean anything and i was quite drunk. Should I tell him. It was just a kiss infact a terrible one and i regret it so much
30. December 2016
Hey hun, i think you should tell him. It’s unfair to keep this sort of info away from him.
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