Hey lovely,

Let me keep it real. You chose to embark on this  journey, he did not. As nice as it would be for him to be 100% down for the cause, that’s not how life works especially when you’re dealing with something like sex. He needs to be in the same space you’re in or it will not work. There’s also no point forcing it, you’ll end up hurting yourself. I think if this matters so much to you, you need to be willing to let your relationship go in pursuit of that, that should have been the mindset before you embarked on this journey. You should not be in a relationship if you constantly fear your partner will cheat, that’s a huge NO.

You started off compatible but if he values regular sex the way you value celibacy then at least for now you need to accept that you’re incompatible and act accordingly, being fair to the both of you. Sit down and talk, do not impose your wishes upon him. Tell him to be brutally honest, does he think he can do this relationship without sex? If he say’s no and you are unwilling to compromise, let this relationship go. He could come around later and you’ll get back together or you may change your mind on your desires/view of sex. Only time will tell, but for now get the clarity you need and make a decision.

Ebi

Do better by blocking him on everything, you already know your feelings for this breed of bastard are of the devil, his only purpose is to scatter your life, don’t open that door.

Ebi

That’s so great to hear! Congrats dear.

Oloni

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Lol you need to have a conversation with him dear. He’s not your father and I’m sure you’re grown so no one should be raising their voice at you, it’s disrespectful. As for his opinions, that won’t change. He was like that when you met him, so even if you stop dating him today, he will still have the same mindset. You either accept who he is, or walk away.

Oloni

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