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How important is it to post your partner on social media because my bf hasn’t even posted my fingernail and we’ve been together for quite some time now. I’m not popular or big on social media but he is. Because of this I feel like I don’t want him to appear single to other females online. He posts our dates, getaways and outings but he’ll never show that he’s with me. I haven’t really posted him either because of it (just the his head or arms). I don’t want to be like “post me post me” but admittedly it bothers me, is this privacy or secrecy? Do you think I should talk to him about how I feel and if so how? I don’t know if I’m just over thinking.
30. December 2016
It really depends on how your partner uses their social media and what it’s for. If he posts other parts of his life, such as friends and family, then I understand your conundrum.
Another thing is that social media never defines someones relationship status. Men and women can post photos together hashtagged with #couplegoals but entertain people via DM.
Ultimately, it bothers you and it makes sense, when you’re in a relationship you want to be shown off once in a while… so TALK to him. He’s your boyfriend and should understand how you feel.
Oloni
Started talking to a guy I met on twitter shortly after breaking it off with a guy I was dating. Anyway I’m a very sexually open person and it turns out he is too. I’ve sent him a few booty and titty shots (without my face) and we’ve been speaking for a while and have a lot in common but he hasn’t spoken about going on a date but wants to take me to a hotel to have sex? Might be a stupid question really but what should I do? Seeing as I do want a relationship with him.
30. December 2016
Decline his invite and suggest an alternative idea, like a date.
Oloni
I NEED YOUR HELP! I went on a date last night with a guy I met online. We’d been speaking for a few weeks and hit it off instantly, I could tell how keen he was and I was feeling so great about it. But then the cocktails led to wine and the wine led to me thinking I’m a pornstar and the next thing I know I’m giving him a blowjob (in his house mind, I wasn’t feeling freaky enough to do so in public). Anyway cool seems like nada but then this morning he was really grouchy. Is this a male morning go away and leave me be thing or did I go too far too quick and has he lost interest? He’s text me today and seems cool but I can’t help but read too far into it ?
30. December 2016
You could be thinking about it too deeply. Relax and allow yourself to make your own judgement after more time spent together. If you still feel a way, address it.
Oloni
My boyfriend messages girls that are friends, yet deletes the messages. I’ve seen it a few times and he will excuse the situation or make it seem innocent. Help
30. December 2016
Either your boyfriend or the girls he’s messaging are saying something inappropriate OR he’s deleting things he believes you will fuss about and look too deep into. Speak to him, cus either way it’s still dodgy.
Oloni
Hey, I’ve been dating this guy for 3 months but we have been speaking for around 6. He has just told me that’s his ex is 4 months pregnant so he had sex with her while we was speaking. He has said it was a mistake and that his ex is refusing to abort the baby. He said he will help his ex financially and see the baby at times but still wants to work things out with me, I am heartbroken and feel betrayed. I feel as if a baby will bring them together and they will start to date again but he says that will not be the case, what do I do?
30. December 2016
Hey hun! If I’m totally honest this is still very early days for you and him. Best advice I would give, is for you to let him go.
I’m a firm believer of leaving men who are expecting a kid/just had a kid. No matter how it happened and who she is to him, this will definitely cause some sort of issues.
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