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Hi Oloni, I was eaten out by one of the strippers at chocolate city… now I’m scared my man might find out. What should I do? Should I jump the gun and tell him or leave it and hope he might not find out?
25. January 2017
Are they even allowed to do that? Smh. Let your boyfriend know and go from there.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I don’t know if you’ve had this type of question before. I’m in a very happy relationship with my boyfriend. Everything is going so well. A few years back just before we got together I met a friend of his. She didn’t like me much in the beginning of course. I wasn’t too bothered by it. A few months back we bumped into eachother at an event, and mingled just as girls would. She admitted it wasn’t her initial choice to come off rude in the beginning she’s happy for her friend and can’t wait to see us get married etc… But recently I feel like she’s been making moves on me. Baring in mind she’s STRAIGHT but will ask me freaky questions about being with a girl. She’s always finding an excuse to touch me, even infront of my boyfriend. He sees it as we’re just being girls. She will suggest to go shopping and follow me into changing rooms and try to do inappropriate things but then just say she’s “joking” now I’m about to absolutely lose my marbles. I don’t know how to tell my boyfriend that his female friend is suggesting I leave him for her…
25. January 2017
Hey hun, thanks for writing in. You shouldn’t have to be made to feel uncomfortable by your boyfriends friend. It’s highly inappropriate and needs to be addressed asap. Speak to her and let her know it makes you feel uneasy. I would also suggest you spend less time with her and also explain what’s been happening to bf.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I’ve been talking to this guy for the past 4 months now and I feel like we are at a standstill, we’ve never gone on a proper date ( which I don’t mind) but even suggesting it to him can cause argument. He says he likes me a lot but he doesn’t show me he does unless I’m physically with him. He barely messages me first & says that I shouldn’t tell people we talk even though people know we do already & I personally don’t talk about my business like that but it’s just the fact he told me that has got me thinking somehow. What should I do I’ve tried talking to him about it but it always leads to an arguement
21. January 2017
Is this a normal thing for Nigerians guys. All the Nigerian guys I’ve fucked with never eat me out and I don’t even ask for it because I feel like if they wanted to, I wouldn’t have to ask for it. I even spend time making sure my kitty is clean as fuck so nobody should come here and say its because my box stank. All the other guys I’ve been with (white guys) always give me good head and I don’t even have to ask for it. I’m seeing a nigerian guy right now and I really want that tongue, we haven’t been intimate yet but just incase, do you think its ok for me to ask? because I feel its embarrassing to ask because what if he says no that would hurt my ego. But serious question, are all Nigerian dudes like this? or is there something wrong with me? The annoying thing is I have to give head but I get none in return
21. January 2017
I’m not a Nigerian man, so I an’t speak for them. However, nationality has nothing to do with sex + communication. If you can’t open your mouth between the sheets, then you probably shouldn’t be sleeping with them at all. Don’t place your pleasure to the side because of your pride or ego.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, this is weird doing this but I’ve been in a relationship with my girl for 3 years, I love her and everything but she has Sickle Cell severely. She’s been in and out of hospital a lot. I’ve always been there for her but lately I’ve been asking myself do I really want to carry this burden with her for the rest of my life ? don’t get me wrong she is a beautiful girl with a beautiful soul and the most strongest person I’ve ever met but I just don’t think this is what I want for myself. And i don’t want to be the bad guy and break up with her because of it. What should I do ? Thanks a lot in advance
21. January 2017
Hey hun! Thanks for writing in. It sounds like this has been on your mind for a while. The right step to take is to talk to her an have an honest and open conversation. Remember, this doesn’t make you a bad person as you’re only being true to yourself. With time, it seems as though you noticed this isn’t something you’d be able to commit to.
Being in and out of hospital is never easy, but by letting go of her you give her the chance to move on and find someone who can accept what she’s going through.
Oloni
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