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Hi oloni, recently me and my boyfriend have been arguing loads because he spends looooads of time training for his sport. When he misses one training session, his friend says ‘you’re not serious, you go to your girls house instead of training’. I told him that his friends are too fast to chat and get involved too much. He gets pissed, I don’t wanna blame him because his friends always chat shit, but I do take it out on him.. saying ‘we don’t spend time together, it’s because your friends are too chatty’ I don’t know what to do, I told him I want us to have space so he can focus on training.. but neither of us want that. He doesn’t want anything to get between us but I feel like an extra piece of luggage
2. February 2017
Hey hun, if your boyfriend is trying to be serious about something that means a lot to him, it’s always important to make sure you’re being supportive. As for you boyfriend… his friends should never have power to speak about your relationship so he needs to check them. Stop arguing and try talking and listening, come up with an arrangement where you can both spend quality time with each other. It’s not that hard.
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Hi Oloni, my boyfriend and I have always had a great sexual connection, however last month he dismissed my nudes and didn’t seem interested on FaceTime. He usually initiates things first and always makes time for these things (seeing as he started uni in September). I made it clear that I was upset about being dismissed repeatedly and he explained that he just ‘wasn’t in the mood’. I find it strange since he’s always in the mood and it’s unlike him to dismiss me and his ‘responses’ seemed somewhat forced as he would only reply with an emoji. Do you think he was being satisfied by another female or am I just overthinking ?
2. February 2017
I wouldn’t jump to the conclusion of assuming he’s seeing another woman. Some men are very capable of entertaining two girls at the same damn time anyway hun. Since you’ve already spoken about it, give him a bit of space then try again. If nothing changes this might just be his nature towards you now.
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Hi oloni, love the blog and congrats on everything you do. Basically my girlfriend is making me feel like sex is a chore. She’ll just say I want sex I’m Horny give me your dick. So randomly before it was a turn on like it’s random sex but now it’s like oh here we go again. She doesn’t make any effort to turn me on so to say or have nice foreplay. I’ve spoken to her about it but nothings changed. What can I say/do to stop this. It’s putting me off sex with her sometimes I’d rather just bash one out.
2. February 2017
Hey hun, you’re going to have to have another honest and open conversation and explain how tired you are of repeating yourself. Listen to what she says and ask her, why she doesn’t make an effort. If nothing changes, it’s then up to you to decide whether or not you can deal with it.
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Hi oloni, I’ve been dating this guy for the past year and he is starting to make me feel uncomfortable. He always makes jokes saying he has another girlfriend and she is sexy blah blah. But when I get upset he says I should chill out that it’s only a joke. But this has been going on for a while now. He also makes negative comments about my weight I don’t know what to do anymore
25. January 2017
He sounds like an absolute douche. You explained you didn’t find his jokes funny before writing into me and he still continued… and wait.. he also throws jabs at your weight? You deserve so much better! I think the time you’ve spent getting to know this guy should end here.
Hi! This guy I’ve been speaking to occasionally ghosts on me and doesnt communicate why he does this or even when. He just disappears. I’m trying to get to know him and let my guard down so we can become serious but this is a serious issue for me because I panic and assume hes done with me. I dont like it and I dont understand why. He could be busy with work or be dealing with some stuff mentally but the fact he doesnt talk about this bothers me. What should I do?
25. January 2017
Sis, he’s not that into you, your bother yourself by worrying about why he ghosts. Find someone new to date/get to know.
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