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Girl I be getting pressed when my boyfriend tells me about his past and overshares. Like I get we both have pasts but sometimes I get in my feels and feel like he is reminiscing or feel jealous. Idk what’s going on but is it normal? Help cos I’m a supeeeeerrr secure girlie who knows she’s the shit
4. February 2025
You’re human and it annoys you sometimes. That’s okay. Speak up and tell him how you feel.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I just started reading the Big O! Thanks for writing, it’s actually very informative. I’ve always struggled with this pain when trying to engage with my vaginal opening. It’s why I’ve never used tampons and I’ve never successfully been fingered, even with one finger it’s too painful and I always asked them to stop. Now, I’ve started seeing this guy, I really like him. He’s really sweet and patient. However the same thing happens whenever we try. For my own pleasure I want to work through this and maybe even get over my fear of tampons. Any advice?
26. November 2024
Aww thanks love! See your doctor and ask about dilators.
oloni
I am still afraid of initiating sex sometimes, what helps you not be weird about it?
15. November 2024
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My bf and I both agreed to wait so we were each others firsts. But a few weeks after we slept together i found out I have genital warts. I was completely shocked, but now he thinks I lied about being a virgin and that I must’ve been with someone else. I swear he’s the only person I’ve been with but he’s convinced I’m hiding something and won’t believe it can happen any other way. Is there any way to prove I’m telling the truth, or is this relationship over?
10. November 2024
Hey girl, sorry you’re dealing with this. Just know, genital warts don’t always mean someone’s lying or unfaithful. HPV can be passed through skin to skin contact and sometimes shows up long after exposure. So yes, it’s possible to get it without multiple partners.
If your boyfriend can’t trust you on this or refuses to educate himself, that says a lot. Your body and health shouldn’t be used against you. Maybe he needs to do some research!! OR maybe it’s time to ask if he’s someone who deserves your honesty.
Oloni
My boyfriend of 2 years and I haven’t had sex in 6 months. Every time I’ve tried to broach the subject he tries to change topic. Yesterday I’d had enough and told him that it feels like he doesn’t want to be with me anymore so maybe we should just break up. He finally told me the truth and it was worse that I could have imagined. He said that I’ve gained a lot of weight recently and he struggles to have sex with bigger women. I know I’ve gone from a 14 to a 16 since I started WFH but I don’t think it’s such a big change that he has the right to be disgusted with me now. I don’t know what to do.
10. November 2024
Heya hun you deserve a partner who loves and respects you, no matter what. Weight changes are totally normal, and the fact he avoided the topic only to blame it on your body is a major red flag. A real partner supports you they don’t make you feel less than. Take a step back and think about what you deserve!
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