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Hey Oloni long time fan here, love what you’re doing!! This is a quick one. I’m currently talking to one guy he’s nice and all but wants to take everything slowwww. Now I’m a grown woman with needs. There’s this other guy I’ve fancied for a while we used to have casual sex but we became distant after a not talking for a while. We recently followed each other on socials, he doesn’t really view my snaps and we chat once in a while. The thing is he gave me some good ass sex lol! Should I make a move & try rekindle the sex flames or wait for this other guy to come around or do both 😉 lol
15. April 2017
Hey hun, I’m sure you’re gown and you’re also single. You can make you’re own sex decisions lol.
Oloni
Hi Oloni,my best friend and I have been having sex for years and literally no one knows apart from us two, even at times we’ve both been in a relationship we would still continue. His girlfriend isn’t very fond of me but I truly don’t care, but I’ve met someone who I’ve considered potential and he’s very serious, I feel like before me and him get serious I really want to tell him the truth about everything and also end my sexual relationship with my best friend. What advice could you give me
15. April 2017
Do you really need me to tell you what to do…
Hi Oloni, after the death of my brother I was in a bad place and in hindsight blamed my relationship with my boyfriend. I cheated on him with an older guy who in hindsight probably exploited my vulnerability. I told my boyfriend and he ended it. I really want to get back with him but he says he can forgive me but can’t be in a relationship with me again. We are still officially living together and are in the process of moving out. Although hes staying at a friends house he still wants to be friends. He asks how I’m doing often and still attempts to help me make important decisions. Once I’ve moved out should I try the no contact rule? Do I have right to even though I cheated? What should I do?
15. April 2017
Hey love! I’m so sorry to hear about what happened to your brother and what you’ve been going through. Sometimes situations that we’re going through influence some bad decisions, but life is all about moving forward and learning. Your ex seems to be understanding, but there’d be nothing wrong if you decided to do the no contact rule. If you feel as though the NC rule will help you move on, then why not? If friendship isn’t what you’re after you can respectfully let him know, then focus on yourself.
Oloni
Huge dilemma. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 10 years I recently found out he cheated on me on two occasions during our relationship. When I found out he begged me not to leave him and we have been going to counselling to try and work on things as we have a child together and live together. He said he cheated as he saw it as a sort of escapism since this has all come out we haven’t slept together because I can’t get the thought of him sleeping with someone else out of my head. The first thing I think about when I wake up is him giving oral sex and sleeping with another female and how naiive I was to not know! I’m unsure what to do I know things will never be the same again
15. April 2017
Hey darling, thanks for writing in! I think that the fact that you’re both seeking some counselling is a VERY good step. Being cheated on is never easy, and it doesn’t make you naive as you truly trusted him.
Waking up and with those reminders clearly shows how difficult you’re finding everything. Have you spoken about this with him and have you informed your counsellor? Because it’s very important. This might be a sign that, you need a fair amount of time to yourself to get through things, especially because you live together.. just a bit of space.
If you’re 100% sure you know YOU want to make it work, then be patient and continue seeing your counsellor to see how things work out.
Oloni
Oloni i am having headless. My ex wifed me really quickly within 1 month of knowing me. We were in honeymoon stage and everything was blissful and lovely. However 3 months in, he left his twitter account logged in on my phone and i discovered messages with several girls complimenting, asking on dates and even getting aired and rejected… embarssing. After that I locked it off immediately. THEN on twitter the NEXT day he posted his “girlfriend” in his stupid Arsenal t shirt that he used to get me to wear and leave at mine before i gave it back to him during breakup! He’s now put her name in his bio and posted date night pics. Oloni i am spinning i feel like i’ve been asleep for 3 months, where did girlfriend come from when he introduced me as his girlfriend to everyone although he never posted me online he did all other things a boyfriend should. I am so frustrated and confused. I’ve blocked him on everything but I’m debating messaging his “girlfriend” and telling her wagwan. How do i deal with the betrayal and should i tell the girlfriend she is being played too?
15. April 2017
No sis, leave him alone and just move on. Be thankful it never lasted longer than three months.
Oloni
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