I’ve been dating someone for 2 months and everything was perfect until he said to me he doesn’t want to get married young (he’s 27, I’m 24) he talking about after his been with his girl for maybe 10 years…. then he dropped another ball saying after living with his sister he will never live with another female again. My response was so what about your partner? He said we can live separately nothing wrong with that. His reasoning is that his mum and dad divorced after 23 years and he kicked her out with nowhere to go? That’s a 100 per cent no my view of how relationships should work, number 1 I’m not wasting more than 3/4 years with a man with no ring and number 2 I want to live with my partner. Should I cut things off or wait a bit and revisit the conversation since it was premature?
1. May 2017
You’ve been dating for 2 ordinary months. 60 days sis.. carry your load and run.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, do you think it’s ok for your man to comment on other girl’s butts/breast? Cos it makes me uncomfortable.
1. May 2017
No, that’s not okay. Especially if it’s not even like a celebrity or something… and even then it’s still not really okay.
Speak to him.
Oloni
Hi oloni, so my boyfriend has broke up with me because someone has said to him I have cheated which isn’t true, he won’t give me any information about who said it and he’s made it clear he’s done with me unless I admitt to cheating but as I haven’t cheated I’m not going to admit to something I haven’t done, I don’t know what to do as I’m in complete shock as to why anyone would say that, I really don’t know what to do
1. May 2017
Your boyfriend sounds stupid. He can’t accuse you of something with no evidence or at least zero info. If that’s how he’s going to act, then leave him be till he comes to his senses. You haven’t done anything wrong, so don’t even worry about it.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, so I’ve been talking to this girl for a while and we have come to really like each other. In the brink of going the next step of making her gf (and potential wifey) I realized she’s sisters with a girl I used to have casual sex with, two years ago. The real issue for me here is entering a new relationship with baggage. I believe this is an area which could cause issues, especially as this girl knows her sister and I have history. I’m thinking of pulling the plug here (reluctantly as I really like this girl) but I don’t know if I’m doing the right thing?
1. May 2017
Oh noo! Tricky. Have you spoken to her about it properly? If not do so and ask how she feels.
I know this would cause a bit of a problem for most sisters, cousins or even friends.. so the best thing to do right now is to explain what’s going through your head.
Hi Oloni, I don’t know if this question should be asked here as it isn’t necessarily about relationships per se but it is still sexual related lol…anyway here goes…I’ve heard conflicting things about the morning after pill in regards to infertility and what not. I read online that no matter how many times you take it it can’t actually make you infertile and this is also what the clinic people have told me but I’ve heard bare people say if you take it 3 times or more a year it can. Now here’s my dilemma lol: I took it around 7 times in just under a year (yh I know, not the best idea) around 2015. It fucked up my body so much but I did not want to go on birth control cos of the horror stories that I have heard and continue to hear. Eventually I just stopped taking them but still continued to have unprotected sex. There were times where I would have sex around my ovulation period and the boy would buss inside me and I wouldn’t take any emergency contraception but I have never gotten pregnant when in theory I should have at least once. Ngl I’m starting to think my fertility might actually have been affected but I don’t know what to do like is there a way I could go to the clinic to find out how fertile I am? l love your work btw keep it up girl x
1. May 2017
I just want to say thank you so much for sharing this honest experience. From what I’ve also read and been taught the morning after pill can’t make you infertile. It’s not healthy if you take it each and every time you have sex.. but not because it will affect your ferility in the future.
I would suggest you book an appointment with a sexual health nurse to talk about your concerns. I also think you should stop having unprotected sex immediately as the pill/morning after pill will never protect you from sexual transmitted infections, which in itself is more likely to mess up your fertility.
Having sex is amazing, but after experiencing an orgasm, there’s no better feeling than knowing you were safe about it.
When you do book an appointment ask about contraception so they are able to suggest what is perfect for YOU. Make sure you get a check up also.
Oloni
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