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Hi Oloni, yesterday my boyfriend of almost 3 years disrespected me on his social media by posting an inappropriate picture of him and another woman. He didnt see anything wrong with it until his friends told him to take it down, then he apologised and said he didnt know it was “wrong”. I accepted his apology but I told him I needed my space to get over the embarasment and disrespect but he keeps pestering me asking me “are you feeling okay now”etc. How do I tell him to leave me alone for the time being because telling him I need my space right now isnt going into his head.
7. May 2017
Call him and let him know that the more he hits you up, the more frustrated you become.
Hi oloni, my boyfriend of over a year has been complimenting girls in DMs, I saw from his phone and it’s times when we argue he does this!
3. May 2017
Dump him.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I have been with my partner for 4.5 years and we lived together with his 4 brothers. I think of all of this brothers as my own family, and yesterday was the youngest ones first day of work and I was so proud of him so I made a big family dinner for when he got home, and we were all hanging out and talking over dinner and so proud of him. That night my partner went to bed at around 7pm for work the next night and I stayed up and watched the for a while. This morning I woke up at 6am to him screaming at me and telling me to ‘get out of his house’ because he thinks I was fucking his brother. It turned horrible and we were screaming and yelling at each other, and he locked me out of the house and wouldn’t let me get any of my stuff. He is 4 years older than me, I am 21 and he is 25 so I am closer to his younger brothers age (he’s 18) but I would never ever do anything like that, all his brothers look to me as a ‘mother figure’ becaude theirs had recently moved out to enjoy her own life. In the 4.5 years we have been together I have never once cheated on him or done anything sneaky, but he has cheated twice in the past. I don’t know if this is the way he is reacting because he feels guilty about something or if he is seriously just messed up in the head. We have never been able to have a proper conversation as he just snaps and gets really mad and tell me to leave HIS house, when we all contribute and pay bills. He has been the love of my life since I was 16 and I just don’t know what to do. I have read all of your other comments about trying to communicate and tell him how I am feeling or what I think about the way he is acting, and I have tried but nothing works. His anger gets the better of him and we always end up breaking up for a day or two and then just brushing it under the rug like nothing happened until the next fight. Please help, I don’t know what to do!
3. May 2017
Hey hun if you’ve read all the advice I’ve given to others and it’s not working for you, you need to leave. His accusations are incredibly wild and how he’s treating you is very terrible. I feel like you know this though, but need me to reconfirm and that’s fine, but don’t allow your strong feelings for him to cloud your judgment
Hey Oloni last week my best friend got into a really bad car accident. He’s supposed to be my best man for my wedding in two weeks. I wanted to call the wedding off because it’s unlikely he’ll be able to attend as he was badly injured. I need him to be there ..he’s like a brother to me. My fiancée on the other hand is against us pushing the date for the wedding. We’ve spent a lot of money on planning our wedding for over a year but im not tryna call it off. I just want my boy to be there, we keep arguing about it and i think she’s being unreasonable. I dont know what to do
3. May 2017
Heya hun, I’m really sorry to hear about your friend. This is such a tough one, because who wouldn’t want their best friend at their wedding? Although I understand that weddings, are supposed to be a time where families and friends witness a beautiful union, you also need to remember the most important part which is committing to your fiancee. I don’t think pushing the wedding date is a good idea. Have a conversation with your wife to be and perhaps see a professional such as a therapist together.
Oloni
I’m the person who posted about having ghonnorea and chlamydia and worrying about my fertility. I seen a lot of people quoting and insinuating I need to “chill” and I should check for HIV instead etc etc. I just want to clarify I have had 3 sexual partners in all my life, just 2 very bad experiences. I’m just explaining this to make it clear – you don’t have to be a hoe to get STD’s and it’s not fair to call anyone who has been unlucky to get one, a hoe and if you’ve only had a couple sexual partners etc then you should still go get checked up! Thanks, just wanted to add to that. (Also when I said I’ve had them 3 times, I meant chlamydia twice and ghonnorea onc btw, also wanted to clear that up lol)
3. May 2017
I completely agree with you! Thank you for clearing that up.
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