Hi Oloni, so long story short I’m having sex with a married man. I met the man of my dreams sis, and he turned out to be newly married with young children. I cut all ties immediately. Until recently that is. He popped up back into my life and I just can’t keep away.
2. June 2017
You’re not trying hard enough. If you feel like this is morally wrong, cut all ties and block his number.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, me and my best friend are in love with eachother. We’re not in a relationship but we’ve established we love each other more than friends. We’ve slept together several times but not this year. I want a relationship with him but he said he doesn’t want to hurt me simply because all his past relationships ended badly. So when I accept it and try to move on and he says he can’t be with me but he doesn’t want anyone else to have me. Oloni, what should I do? He’s been the only guy I’ve ever really wanted for 10 years but I’m no idiot, should I just cut him off? Sure we drift apart but we always come back together and it’s like nothing ever changed. Please help me. C xx
2. June 2017
The thing about love is it’s never straightforward and in this scenario it’s certainly complicated. I can understand how your friend is feeling because he cleary values your friendship, but at this point it’s a bit too late.
Feelings have developed and you’ve also been intimate. If he feel like he can’t try or give it a shot with you, you need to distance yourself before your feelings go completely over the top. Maybe space might even allow him to figure things out.
Oloni
Hey Oloni. Great job by the way. Let me get straight into it. I am pregnant by my regular dick appointment and everything is fine between us. But lately he has point blank refused to satisfy me sexually. I have always always had a very high sex drive and his sex is the bees knees but now he is depriving me and it’s really depressing me. He knows I can’t get d*ck from anyone else because I’m carrying his child but he thinks having sex with me is going to trigger my feelings for him. He also seems to think sex is going to harm he baby (bless his cotton socks). Sometimes I get frustrated and act out in frustration and sometimes I just shoot my shot and ask him to come and d*ck me down but he turns down my request. How do I let him know that “honey, mama has needs that only you can satisfy”? Thanks for answering.
2. June 2017
Hey love! Congratulations on your pregnancy. If he’s not interested in having sex.. no matter what the reason is, you’re just going to have to accept it. Your hormones might be all over the place, so I’d suggest is some good ol self pleasure.
Oloni
Hey Oloni, I can’t get over the fact my girl slept with other people during our breaks. Should I be jealous about this?
2. June 2017
Yes, that’s heartbreaking. Unless that was agreed to prior, breaks do not mean you csn suddenly jump into bed with someone else.
Oloni
Soooo I’ve been dating for like 9 months now. All is great, haven’t done the whole official thing, but we’re good. I’ve made it clear to her a while back that I’m not looking for anything serious, but don’t mind seeing her still, esp as she is still quite keen to keep going out with me. Now we’re talking about going on holiday together soon, talks of big plans. But, even tho I’m not looking for anythin long term serious with this person, and they’re still keen to go, do i broach it with them (again) about my standpoint, or will this make things odd and awkward when we’re having good times together / put a damper on things? Are these a sign that desp what i said shes pushing for the long haul? Could we still date n keep things as they are, or break things off cos of where I’m coming from?
2. June 2017
Why would you even plan on going on a baecation with someone who isn’t your partner? That’s sending mixed messages. If i were you, I’d cancel the whole holiday because when actions are involved it turns into something else.
When you reach that destination you will probably go out on dates like couples do, have sex like couples do, hold hands and spoon as couples do.
After 9 months of dating, of course she thinks you might finally want to be exclusive. Do not go on that holiday or else it’ll be more complicated.
Oloni
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