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Hi oloni. hope you’re good:) could u pls do a sex tip / do’s n don’t for beginners lol who just started having sex or think of. I just recently lost my virginity and i feel so lost in this new world of sex lol i ave been clinic to get more info but i felt like they were pilling a lot of things on me n sugarcoating it a bit but i know if u do a thread or ask to your followers i will get real insight of what to do
7. May 2017
Oloni, I went out with some friends and it was a good night, we had an apartment and so we told a few people to come back to chill. I was having bants with one guy and we flirted a bit. When they came back to our apartment he fell asleep in mine and my sister’s bed. I was mingling with other people and what not and I got bored/tired and thought I’d go in the room to sleep so not to wake up. I was on my phone when he woke up and he started cuddling me and being really touchy. I told him to stop and he continued but in a banterous way. He then stopped and we were both just quiet, I was on my phone. I thought he’d gone back to sleep but he came closer and tried to lips me but I dodged a few times. I had a dress on that had a zip down the middle and he kept trying to unzip it and I told him to stop. He lifted my dress and started touching my bum, told him to stop cause I wanted my dress down then someone walked in and we pretended to be asleep then they left and we were laughing but my dress was still up. He then re-positioned me so he was on top of me and he was kissing my neck and I did want to kiss him back so I did. This is when he started reaching for my vagina and I told him to stop on several occasions but he didn’t, he then forced two fingers in my vagina and yes, I’ve been fingered before but I’ve never had sex. It was really painful and he was pushing it in and out and I kept telling him to stop. Then I told him I wanted him to stop cause I was a virgin and he didn’t believe me, he continued fingering but with only one. I did moan but I continued telling him to stop but he wouldn’t. Then I got angry and he stopped and Its been like 30 minutes since it happened and I don’t know how to feel… what just happened? I left and went to the bathroom and cried then he came in and told me it wasn’t that deep and that I’m going on like he raped me, then I lay in the bed and he tried to cuddle but I told him to stop touching me, he wouldn’t then eventually he did and then he asked if I was ring serious with how I was reacting cause “it’s not like I punched you, held you down and had sex with you” then he got angry and said “I’m a nice guy but don’t act like how you’re acting, cause people actually get raped and if that’s what you’re insinuating then you need to say it with your chest” then he barged out. I just don’t know what to do or how to feel
7. May 2017
Hey hun! I really do hope you’re feeling better and I’m so sorry to hear about what you went through. You’ve done nothing wrong and from what you’ve written to me, you clearly said ‘no’ on numerous occasions so he had no right to touch you without your consent. This was sexual assault and he should be punished for what he did. ‘No’ mean no, not try to convince me.
What he’s also done is gaslight you into thinking, you have no reason to be upset. Please talk to someone you trust about this and also go to the police.
oloni
I keep messing up the bedsheets when I have sex. Like it’s super duper wet! Is that normal???
7. May 2017
Yes!
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I have a dilemma, I recently met this guy at my friends house where he asked my friend about me and said he liked me and wanted me however, my friend didn’t tell me about this and a month later I crossed paths with this guy where he took my contact details. After just a couple of weeks I really fell for this guy as we really connected and spent everyday with each other. He then asked me about my current dating situation and I asked him about his, where he told me he had been seeing one girl for a few months and to be honest I didn’t see it as a red flag because he obviously had a life before meeting me so I respected his honesty as he reassured me that I had nothing to worry about in regards to the girl. Now oloni I paid him a visit and ended up staying over in the morning i noticed that there was a handbag in his room with female clothing inside it and in his bathroom I noticed that he had feminine products in his cupboard so I confronted him and his response was that it belonged to the girl he was seeing before me with that I voiced my concerns and even said I wanted out but he begged me claiming he didn’t want to lose me and that he will fix the situation with the other girl I accepted his request but my heart wasn’t at ease so I done research and found out who the girl was and decided to take to her twitter to perform my own research to then stumble onto her header being a picture of him and also tweets referring to him as her boyfriend. Now oloni with all these things that I saw I confronted him but he denied the girl in question was his girlfriend that he was only seeing her nothing else stating that he didn’t have twitter (which is true) that’s why she’s tweeting all these things. I’m in need of advice oloni as I really like this guy and have never met anyone like him.
7. May 2017
Hey oloni, I met this guy and we started sleeping with each other after 3 months after sleeping with him 3 times I started feeling uncomfortable burning pains around my vagina so I went to the clinic and after a week I got my results and have herpes type 1, how do I confront the guy and can I even as you cannot detect when you contracted the virus! But I’m almost 100% sure I contracted it from him as I also found blisters in my mouth after he has gone down on me and kissed me after penatrating me.
7. May 2017
Hey hun, talking to your sexual partner about herpes isn’t something you should fear doing. Sit down with him and explain what you’ve been told as I can guarantee sexual health nurses give you a talk when they have your results. Ask him to get a check up as it’s advised by clinics. There are also similar dilemmas regarding herpes on Ask Oloni, so have a look through the pages here to find it for more guidance.
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