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Hi Oloni. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 years and things have been up and down. My problem is that his homeboys try to get him to sleep with other girls sending him pictures and telling him to sleep with them and discussing their bodies. He doesn’t tell them off. Also he used to date a girl that his friends continuesly give him updates about, it makes me insecure and jealous. I’ve tried talking to him about it but it doesn’t change. I just need some advice.
4. June 2017
That’s so nasty! A partner who can’t correct their friends is not a partner you should want. If he doesn’t speak to his friends, they will only continue their silly behaviour. Have a word with him again and if nothing changes, you need to rethink you relationship.
Oloni
In relation to the girl who said her man has all girls as his best friends on snapchat & he never shows you off, leaveeee please! I was in a similar situation & time and time again I expressed my distaste for it. One day I opened all the conversation up and read those that were saved and it was enough for me to pack my bags and leave. Your gut instinct is always right girl! If u gotta ask someone about it it’s probably dodgy
4. June 2017
Thanks for sharing!
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I spoke to a guy for a while but found out he’s not serious and loves to live the baby boy life, there has been a few times he said he wants to wife me but because of his immaturity now he cannot settle for one girl. He keeps trying to find ways to message me or pree me on my social media. What does this mean?
4. June 2017
It means he wants to waste your time, you know this!
Oloni
Is it normal for my boyfriends search history on Facebook and Instagram to be full of attractive women he knows and associates with often?
2. June 2017
Questionable.. talk to him.
I really want to come to your show although I do not want to any photos taken to be put up on twitter or your website or anywhere else. Nothing against you!! I frequently follow your website and I’ve written in and you’ve answered. Huge thanks and appreciation for that. It’s just I work high up in a big organisation for vulnerable children and young people therefore many people (within that sector/ clients themselves/ parents, carers etc.) recognise me by face. I know being sex positive is nothing to be ashamed of, however unfortunately it does not fit in with ‘our values’. A couple of years ago a colleague was fired and another was given a written warning for their posts and comments on Facebook. They walked into a meeting with their Facebook pages all printed out and laid on the table. I do not want that to be me… thank you!
2. June 2017
Once again! Sorry for this late response. Photos are taken to help market our sponsors and my brand. However in the future I will definitely think about creating a more discreet event for sex positive people. I totally understand where you’re coming from so thanks for writing in. Check out Scarlet ladies btw! Theyre an amazing sex posi brand, that host private sex discussions.
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