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Hi oloni, I’ve recently just had a baby and i went through my partners phone only to find out he had been entertaining another female. He has been taking her out to eat and they’ve been doing stuff together this was all during my pregnancy. I have confronted him about it and he said he is sorry that he will never do it again. I asked him if he has slept with her and he says no. I feel really uneasy and I feel like I cannot trust him anymore. He always makes nasty comments about my weight bearing in mind I just had a baby I just don’t know what to do anymore.
14. June 2017
You need to make your own decision and figure out if his energy is what you really need around you.
Have a word with him regarding his nasty comments. It’s incredibly insensitive and he needs to know.
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Hi Oloni! I’ve been dating my boyfriend for over two years. When we started dating, I was on the pill and we never used condoms. Eventually I stopped taking the pill and he never got in the habit of using condoms. Recently it’s begun concerning me (it should’ve in the beginning b/c risk of stds I know) because I fear now that we live together I risk getting pregnant. When I brought up the discussion he was against me getting BC because he feels it will eventually affect fertility when I attempt to conceive. He’s also unwilling to use condoms. My question is, am I wrong to believe that even after two years something like this could be a deal breaker for me?
14. June 2017
Please ignore your boyfriend. See a sexual health nurse and STOP having unprotected sex. Your sexual health is important.
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Hi Oloni, this girl have beeen seeing each other for a good 6/7 months she then starts applying the where is this going pressure on me. I’m clearly dating to marry however I’m not in the right situation to do so atm (financially) she’s older than me so I can sense her frustration, I’m 22 final yr in uni btw. The relationship is slowly becoming more and more difficult. Like we’ll only message each other once or twice a week (small meaningless stiff convo’s). How can i fix this before I let this amazing gal go
14. June 2017
Be honest with her and tell her how you feel.
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Hello gorgeous. I have a dilemma as I’m dating a man with a child, I don’t know if I should be concerned, worried etc that he has his baby mamma all over social media? We’re in a serious relationship to the point I will soon move in with him, but I get super jealous and paranoid when he likes her pictures on Instagram, he has her on Fb, snapchat and so on. I know they’re bn for life because they have a daughter together but it just gets to me. What should I do?
14. June 2017
You have to understand that the mother of his child will always be family. She’s not an ex he chooses to be cool with. They have a kid together and both have the responsibility to raise this child and show that parents who aren’t together can still have a healthy planotic relationship.
Saying that, I do understand what might be making you uncomfortable. No woman wants to feel like she’s sharing her boyfriend. Yes, they have a good relationship but maybe a conversation with him can share that there might need to be a few boundaries e.g social media.
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Hi Oloni, I’ve been in a relationship with an amazing man for just over 2 years. I love him so much, I genuinely adore him, I fancy him, I trust him and I feel very lucky to have him. The only issue is the sex… at best it’s average, at worst it’s 2 minutes of appalling. He’s a bit older than me and doesn’t have any problems with libido, he’s always horny and quite passionate but I’m always left disappointed. I mentioned it to him once, carefully but precisely and he was very upset about it, but we talked it through and I can really see that he is trying hard but it’s no use and I don’t have the heart to tell him this. I’ve tried prolonged foreplay, toys etc but what I really want is penetration from him, that’s what does it for me. I know I love him and can’t imagine life without him but I worry that me not being sexually satisfied is unhealthy for the relationship. Am I overreacting? Should I sacrifice great sex when he gives me everything else I need from a man and more? Am I being selfish? Would love your advice on this xxx
14. June 2017
I read your dilemma as if it were a Carrie Bradshaw column. Hey hun, what you’re going through isn’t bizarre at all, many couples have faced this issue and while some have improved their sex lives, other have decided to part ways as they weren’t willing to compromise on sex. Sexual compatibility is important to several
Carry on communicating with your partner and get into the practice of teaching him how you enjoy being pleasured. Have sex more than usual as a way for him to study your erogenous zones. If you enjoy sexual penetration a lot, incorporate sex dildos for extra pleasure and just in case your boyfriend finishes early. Sex is more than just both your bodies intertwining, it’s touching, it’s stroking, kissing, reaching your climax and saying.. ‘Let’s go again’.
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