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So basically I had anal for the first time the other day, it was the weirdest experience of my life. It started off really good with normal sex and let me tell you, this guy was blowing my back out, we were both a bit drunk but i knew damn well what i was doing. We were doing positions i didnt even know was humanly possible, from the floor to the wall, to the window, me made me scream his name out the window and i did it with no shame in my body whatsoever. so we finally got to the bed; next he spat on my butt hole and pushed it in. Oloni when i tell you it felt like someone used a knife and stabbed my butt, i pushed him away and he gave me a minute to recover; my drunk glasses were still on so i asked him to try again and he asked if i was sure cause the first time he pushed it in, i could swear tears came out but i said yeh but really slowly and shockingly he did and it was the weirdest feeling, i had so many questions going through my head that i forgot to enjoy it. sorry this story is rather long but i had to give you the full picture, btw im 25; my question now is, will my butt ever go back to normal cause i cant hold a fart to save my life and its been over a day lool. In all the guy is a really sweet guy, and he really wants more from me but im not ready for a relationship.
7. July 2017
Heya next time you try anal, I think it’d be best to start off with a couple of sex toys so you ease into it. I totally get that this wasn’t planned, but in the future using a sex object and lube designed for anal will go a long way. Your bottom will definitely go back to normal too, but if you find that it still feels quite odd, see a sexual health nurse immediately.
Oloni
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Hi Oloni. Recently my fuck buddy’s younger sister has come back to his house to visit and stay for 2 weeks. She’s been here 4 days now and he has been giving her quite a bit of attention, he’s splitting mine and her attention 50/50 (which I’m not used to). Since she’s come, he’s spent lots of money on her and hardly any on me and I’m getting jealous. Is it bad that when he’s eating my pussy, I kinda want her to walk in and see that I run him, he’s mine, not hers… I’ve been cumming to the thought of that since she’s been here, is that bad?!
7. July 2017
Quite odd.. especially since he’s your fuck buddy. You’re way too invested into him emotionally.
Oloni
Hi Oloni. So Ive been speaking to this guy for 3 months now and we both have feelings for each other. We haven’t really rushed anything, everythings mutual. Ive met his friends and parents and so has he. However, due to my last relationship (he cheated) i find it so hard to trust him & it sucks cause im always thinking he’s up to no good, when he’s given me all reasons not to think that. Please could u give any advice possible x
7. July 2017
Heya, just take things slowly with the new guy. Sometimes when we allow a new experience into our lives we learn to open up.
Oloni
What do you say to an ex trying to come back acknowledging he’s done wrong and apologising basically I was pregnant and then lost it but he was never there so after that I left it I think that was the last straw for me now he’s saying he’s sorry and I’m considering taking him back but I dunno
22. June 2017
I don’t know the ins and the outs of your whole relationship, but how do you leave someone when they’re in that position? I feel like he’s doing this out of guilt. He feels bad and is basically doing this for himself.
I could be wrong, so I’m hoping that as someone who actually knows this dude.. you make a wise decision.
I’m also really sorry to hear about what you went through! ❤️
Oloni
My girlfriend doesn’t find herself attractive and thinks i’m lying when I tell her she’s the apple of my eye and my world, well not lying but she doesn’t take it seriously, we spoke about it and I found out that its due to past relationships the guy was generally unfaithful which caused her to question whether if it was because she was unattractive, I think she’s the most beautiful girl I know, how do I get her to se what I see?
22. June 2017
I think it’s beautiful you’ve come to me for advice on how to build up your girlfriends confidence.
First thing I will say is to be patient, her self esteem and confidence issues can’t be worked on over night. As her boyfriend continue speaking life into her in various ways. Tell your girlfriend what you find beautiful about her and not the typical ‘i love your smile’ lol! Although that is sweet, express something she probably thinks you’ve never noticed before.
Talk about how beautiful her personality is too! It’s important that you let her understand that it’s what’s inside that matters most.
Go on planned/surprised dates, listen to her.. show her you appreciate her.
Oloni
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