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Hi Oloni, I was just wondering Is having on orgasm the same as being ‘made to cum’
13. February 2022
Yes it is, having an orgasm is the same as climaxing, coming and nutting.
Hi Oloni, I have met a very nice guy on paper and went out on a date with him plus, he is 75.5% of what I’m looking in a man and a relationship. So far he has a higher rating than all the guys I’ve matched with as I am actively looking for a relationship( p . The reason why I say on paper is because I haven’t known him for long,so the verdict is still out. The problem is that he has an overbite, like he was sucking on his thumb while growing up, I know this is a very shallow thing but am I wrong in not wanting to pursue anything further because of that. I mean I’ve never been one to be bothered by such things as I am not perfect by any inch but I genuinely can’t stop thing about it. Should I just cut it before it grows?
12. March 2021
We answer this on the latest ep of laid bare look out for it!
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Hi Oloni, I have stayed a virgin and I was planning on losing my virginity on my wedding night. I got recently engaged to the guy I am seeing for three years. I love him so much but throughout our relationship he has emotionally cheated on me and slept with other women and I have come about to finally forgive him prior to us getting engaged. I do want to marry him, but I feel silly giving me virginity to someone who couldn’t even stay loyal to me and is t a virgin himself. I am very tempted to hook up with a guy on tinder(hotel ting). Just a random one night stand to make things even with my fiancé for all the crap he has given to me in the last few years. We are do to get married next summer. I wouldn’t even consider myself a hypersexual or horny person it’s just purely to be even. However I would never tell him or a single soul. I’ve already been sexting guys on tinder and I haven’t felt guilt or bad at all. Do you think I should go about with the plan, is it possible to not feel guilt after cheating as a female ? I don’t plan to be a serial cheater and I rather get it out of the way before I marry next year. Hope you answer this.
25. February 2021
You guys need to leave each other alone. It doesn’t sound like either of you are ready for marriage. Having sex for the first time should be something you want to do because you’re horny, not to get even with your boyfriend.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, basically I’m at uni and also am in a LDR as he’s at a different uni. One night I got very drunk and my housemate who was supposed to be a good friend kissed me kmt. I kissed back not really thinking much about it, however I am not in the least bit attracted to him and can never see myself with that person, this happened a while ago but it’s still paying on my mind. Should I tell my boyfriend?
24. February 2021
I honestly don’t see anything positive coming from you telling him, especially if it’s a pointless kiss. But that could be more of a reason to tell him too? You feel so comfortable with your boyfriend, you’re able to tell him about a drunken mistake. How will he truly react? You know him best.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, love what you’re doing allowing us to have a safe space to talk. Okay quick question, I’m on a journey of celibacy and I’m approaching my 6 month mark next month. There’s this guy that I find super attractive and we’ve spoken on a sexual level. I want to fuck him and I’ve accepted that I’m only going to fuck him and dip but should I really come out of this journey for a nigga I’ve never fucked? Imagine waiting 6 months for shit strokes. I would like to hear what you think.
24. February 2021
Honestly, sometimes men are not worth the fuck.
Stick to your journey if that is something you want to do and have sex because, again that’s what you want to DO!
Be patient and perhaps try to remind yourself as to why you wanted to be celibate in the first place.
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