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Hi Oloni, I need advise! Sex with me favourite fuck buddy tends to be painful. I don’t have any pain with my other fuck buddies mainly because they’re not as big as him. The man is a beast 😍 and I enjoy most of my time with him. But about a few strokes in I start feeling pain down there internally, I suspect it could be because this man hits my cervix pretty easily. Do you have any advise on how to take bigger dick?
19. February 2023
He’s definitely hitting your cervix so you need to communicate that he needs to be careful. Sex shouldn’t hurt, (unless you’ve consented to it). Try the spooning position during sex to help decrease the chances of it thumping at your cervix, we’re not trying to bruise it.
Oloni
My ex who I dumped due to cheating with someone he claimed to love now says he’s come to his senses and realises I’m the one for him. I never fully got over him and he’s beginning to act really genuine and has done some big gestures to win me back… I’m wondering if it’s worth giving him a chance this time round to see if our relationship could be better than before? And then at the first sign of madness, I’ll make it clear that I’ll be leaving him for good. He’s the only person I’ve properly loved. Do you think it’s worth giving him a second chance?
19. February 2023
How do you cheat and say you love someone else, then try to come back? The other person has probably realised he’s aint shit and now he’s returning to you. Don’t be anyone’s second option, you deserve better.
Oloni
Hello Oloni, I’m 24 and I was dating a 41 year old he is a Church Pastor. When dating things seemed fine but I started to notice red flags such as stories of him sleeping with women who were also young in their 20s and younger and him cheating on his wife at the time. Eventually I called him out on the behaviour especially considering he would make comments about us having a threesome which isn’t what I’m into and me having an abortion if I got pregnant or he would abandon the child. My question is do I raise this with the church or God do his thing
19. February 2023
Please leave this man alone and let God deal with him
Oloni
Dear Oloni. Need help! My bf and I been together 1 year and it was going really well until earlier this year when we decided to take a break after a major argument we had about moving in together. Anyway we’re back together after a 1 month break and moving in together in a couple of weeks. Someone he had sex with during the “break” is pregnant 6 months and I’m devastated. He found out a week ago and is only telling me now. I’m so humiliated but I want to work through it as we’ve signed all the paperwork and paid deposits to move in together. How can we move past this? I don’t even know what to tell my friends or family because I’m too embarrassed… He wants to pay child support but have no other dealings with the woman so I have no concerns there. But how can we emotionally move forward in our relationship? He didn’t technically cheat but it feels like he did 🙁
21. August 2022
Hey! We answered this on the latest ep of Laid Bare! Hopefully we helped.
oloni
My fiancé and I have been engaged for 8 months and we have made arrangements for the traditional aspects of our wedding alongside the white wedding. Our relationship wasn’t very straightforward to begin with and was very on and off but we would always come back to one another. From my perspective I just couldn’t shake him and was always drawn to him. Fast forward to present day, he recently told me that he used some ‘powder’ for the purpose of us stoping the on and off business and that powder is supposedly what made us finally stay together and get to the point we are at now. I am highly uncomfortable with this and frankly very scared. I’m undoubtedly in love with him and was ready to spend the rest of my life with him till he told me about this powder. What on Earth do I do now? Cause I feel madly in love with him but is it because he took matters into his own hands. Please could you give me some advice on this
30. May 2022
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