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Hey Oloni my mums quite young as she had me at 17 and I’m 21. I’ve always told her my boyfriend troubles and she’s always been able to give me advice. Even with my now exboyfriend. I thought she was a bit too nice to him but didnt think nothing of it. Anyways i we t through her phone last week and saw her and my boyfriend exchanging nudes and basically talking like they’ve had sex. I confronted my mum and although she apologised can i really forgive her? She said she didnt fuck him btw 17. July 2017

I’m incredibly sorry about what you had to go through. It’s usually two faced friends who end up stabbing you in the back like this, so for it to be your mother must hurt way more.

She should know way better and had absolutely no right to be sniffing around your boyfriend. I think you owe yourself space and time to try and forgive.. because what she did is the furthest thing from okay.

Your mum is the ONLY person on this earth you should be able to trust and she’s swapping nudes with someone you called yours? Nah!

I think with time you should try to forgive her… but space away from her in my opinion is vital. She broke your trust.

Oloni

Hi Oloni. I have been living with my gf for the last 4 months. Since moving in we have had sex less and less to the point it is now non existent. When I have asked her about this she got very defensive and said all her friends have told her this is normal and that I am pressuring her when I was simply trying to talk about it. Recently she has been acting strange. Her ex is having a leaving party and her friends are goongvand she’s telling me I’m trapping her by saying I feel uncomfortable with her wanting to go to this party so much given the context. I’m not sure what’s happening to my relationship – advice? 16. July 2017

Yeah she’s getting very defensive and it also seems like she’s turning to her friends for very bad advice.

In terms of her sexual drive, it is natural for her libido to get high and low whenever and it could be due to work, stresss etc.

I also think it’s weird she’d want to go to an ex’s leaving do. You expressing how uncomfortable you’d be is not a bad thing. However this does allow you to compare both your morals… if the relationship isn’t going well, why not just split up?

Oloni

Hi Oloni, I really need someone advice on a situation that’s recently happened with my boyfriend. I am black and my boyfriend is white, we are very early on in our relationship and on the phone we were talking about our cultural differences. I said to him “I bet you’re going to have a culture shock when you meet my family” and his response to that was ” Don’t worry, I can black up, I’ve got black polish at home that I can cover myself in”. I honestly don’t know what possessed him to say that to me but his ignorance and disrespect has really got to me and I am unsure whether I should be with someone who feels as though they can make jokes like that so freely. I really don’t know what I should do. Thank you for help x 16. July 2017

Sis, you need to dump him. That ‘joke’ was racist and just revealed who/what he really is. It’s not okay.

Oloni

Is it ok for your boyfriend to add girls he dont know on instagram 16. July 2017

Not a big deal.

Oloni

Is it right or normal to give a girl money while she’s not giving you sex? 16. July 2017

Give your money to whoever you want to give your money to.. but please don’t expect sex.

Oloni

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