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Hi Oloni, I really need someone advice on a situation that’s recently happened with my boyfriend. I am black and my boyfriend is white, we are very early on in our relationship and on the phone we were talking about our cultural differences. I said to him “I bet you’re going to have a culture shock when you meet my family” and his response to that was ” Don’t worry, I can black up, I’ve got black polish at home that I can cover myself in”. I honestly don’t know what possessed him to say that to me but his ignorance and disrespect has really got to me and I am unsure whether I should be with someone who feels as though they can make jokes like that so freely. I really don’t know what I should do. Thank you for help x
16. July 2017
Sis, you need to dump him. That ‘joke’ was racist and just revealed who/what he really is. It’s not okay.
Oloni
Is it ok for your boyfriend to add girls he dont know on instagram
16. July 2017
Not a big deal.
Oloni
Is it right or normal to give a girl money while she’s not giving you sex?
16. July 2017
Give your money to whoever you want to give your money to.. but please don’t expect sex.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I met this guy on IG and we have been chatting quite a lot and I’m beginning to have feelings for him and I guess he also feels the same way too..but the problem is we stay so far from each other and it’s really affecting us..te question is should I give up on him and what we have started..or I should just continue with the flow..I really like this guy..pls help.
16. July 2017
If the distance isn’t a huge problem, go with the flow. You never know what the future can bring.
Oloni
Hi, I love reading your posts 🙂 well here’s my story, I’ve been with my bf for just over a year now. We met on tinder, we’ve progressed fairly smoothly but we keep having issues with him messaging other girls. The first time, I found dating app when he gave me his iPod (note they had gone from his phone). He deleted them. Then my friend found his tinder profile and he claimed he never deleted in properly. This was in the 1st 6 months. More recently, we were chilling in bed and some girls sent him multiple snap chats, he deleted her straight away without even checking it. Later that day another 1, when I kicked off he said she was trying to flirt with him and he let me message her a bit (although it revealed nothing). TBH I’m starting to feel like a mug but I don’t think he’s necessarily physically cheating. Last night we hung out together he wouldn’t turn on his phone. Normally he does but he didn’t touch it once and even put it on charge off. Am I being paranoid or just a mug because I love him?
16. July 2017
Youre not paranoid he’s given you reasons in the past to prove that he’s cheating. Please get rid.
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