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Hey Oloni. A bit of context for my question. I was feeling this girl, me and her fooled around and that, so after a few months I asked her what’s up? Like where is this going(I was tryna cuff her)? She said she a whole heap of stuff that summary of which is I like you but as a friend. I said cool it’s probably best that we stop fooling around then and we did. But she still wanted all the other couple-ish things to continue, like the phone calls everyday. I wasn’t on that so I skipped out. Now she’s angry with me saying that I only ghosted on her when I couldn’t get what I wanted from her and that I did not consider what she wants. So my question is, is it rude to skip out and ghost on a girl if she ain’t the same wave you’re on?
11. November 2017
If you’ve explained what you’re looking for, then you can “ghost”, especially if she’s still forcing for something, she said she didn’t want.
Oloni
Hi oloni. I have been in a situationship for four months and this this guy just said he loves me. The thing is I find it hard to believe cause I don’t really feel special around him, when I have issues I find it hard to talk to him his more of a if you have a problem fix it n don’t complaint kind of person. He sometimes ignore my messages cause his “busy”. The thing is I really really like him but I need him to be more romantic I want to feel needed. I have completed to him but nothing has change. Please what do I do, I don’t want to just let him go.
11. November 2017
Hey hun, if he’s not giving you what you need, why are you even interested in this person? Why not spend time looking for someone who ticks the boxes you need most?
Oloni
Hi Oloni. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and he currently started talking to a girl from uni for the past few days. I wouldnt mind it at all but he acts so shady about it and tries to hide his conversation with her because of past situations in which some girls tried to move to him and it pissed me off so hes trying to hide it so i dont get vex. I just see them talking all day everyday and its annoying me how all his attention is on her now and what made it worse was that i saw one of the comments he made about her appearance. Like he was really overdoing it calling her a goddess and saying how good she looked etc. Which made me feel uncomfortable ngl cause why is he complimenting some random girl he just became friends with like that. What should i do? All i keep thinking is that comment he made about her and how much time they spend talking to each other. Should i be worried?
10. November 2017
You should be very worried. He’s keeping his options open. I’d dump this guy if I were you, it’s embarrassing.
Oloni
I think my husband is advertising himself on sex adverts on ad sites and just don’t know what my next step is without concrete evidence but it is the same location/fitting description and caught him doing it before we married
10. November 2017
Woah! Talk to him about it. If it’s on your mind, you might as well see what he has to say.
Oloni
Hi oloni, so I meet this boy on a night out, we exchanged numbers then we started texting, at first I didn’t really take it seriously until one night he randomly rang me and I answered. We started talking, texting like everyday then he suggested I come to his city to see him (I live an hour and half away) I said yeah why not. I booked the hotel and everything and together spent like 300 that weekend. We continued talking after that, and we said we should meet up again and do the whole hotel thing, however I was expecting him to be like ‘oh I’ll pay for it this time’ but he wasn’t even offered. I just find it a tab bit weird how he wasn’t even offered or anything? Am I being finessed?
4. November 2017
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