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Hey Oloni I’ve been seeing this guy for about 9 months or so. He acts as if he is my man. We go out in public, I do go to his house however Its really late. I don’t feel it is a relationship because he already has a girlfriend. We have spoken about it which he said he doesn’t like her and is waiting for her to break up with him as she’s done so much for him in the past and he will feel bad. He will say stuff like I only spend my time you etc. Which makes me feel as if what he is saying has truth but its like if you don’t like someone why stay in the relationship. Am I being stupid and naive.
12. February 2018
You are being stupid and naive. Stop talking to a guy who doesn’t have the balls to leave his girlfriend. Men who cheat are also liars, so I have no idea why you’re believing in what he’s saying.
He’s literally playing you both.
Oloni
Hi oloni. I’d been talking to this guy from last september when suddenly he stopped talking to me in december. We never went on any dates but we did talk a lot over phone/text. Then randomly the other night he called me. He said he hadn’t spoken to me in a while and wanted to see how I’m doing as he thought I ghosted him? anyways i told him how i felt and he said hes sorry if thats how i felt and he asked me to meet him the following day. Thing is, he asked me to go to his flat and he said hes okay with going out but doesnt have a lot of money. what should i do?
12. February 2018
Tell him to call you when it’s pay day. He thinks he’s slick, he’s trying to fuck you.
Oloni
Hi Oloni my boy’s girl is linking one of my other boys and doing all sorts with him. My two boys don’t know each other like that but they’ve met before through me a couple times and they’re cool with each other. I warned my boy about this girl cos she has a reputation and a body count longer than the queues in Lidl on a Sunday afternoon but he said he aint insecure and don’t worry about shit like that which I hear but this girl is scandalous. I told my other boy to lock it off and he said he will and he said he didn’t know she had a man, let alone someone he was cool with. I know that if I tell my boy about what his mrs has been up to there’s gonna be fireworks. I don’t want this to happen. I don’t even know what to do in this situation. I sent a dm to his girl to tell her to tell him the dirt but not say who it was with but she said she ain’t saying shit and she blocked me on Twitter. What should I do? I don’t wanna see two of my boys fighting other this ting cos she ain’t worth it but I can’t let her get away with this.
12. February 2018
Jesus, lol. I think it’s best if you just tell the guy she’s in a relationship with, she can’t be crazy enough to deny it further, espcially when YOU know who it’s with.
Oloni
Hi Oloni. I have a job interview coming up with a company in the field that I really want to work in. This is my dream job. I’ve been working in retail since I finished uni last May and this is my first interview in months after applying for so many jobs and not hearing back from anyone. I am so eager to secure this role. It will literally double my salary and will kick start my career. The recruiter I’m working with sent me an email with general info about the job leading up to my interview. The email had the names of the people interviewing me and my line manager should I get the job. I saw a name that I recognised so I google searched, saw the LinkedIn and boom, it was a guy I used to fuck with. Not only is he interviewing me but he will also be my line manager. I won’t lie to you Oloni, I did him very dirty. I’m sure that if he knew it was me he was interviewing, I wouldn’t even have secured an interview in the first place (he knew my as a different name). I’m so tempted to message him on LinkedIn and apologise to him for all of the things I did to him in my hoe phase but I don’t know if that is mixing my personal life with my professional life. I don’t even know if I am allowed to do that. I don’t know what to do in general. What do you think I should do Oloni? Please help
12. February 2018
First off, congratulations on getting an interview I’m hoping this conundrum doesn’t set you back at all. In fact, if I were you, I probably wouldn’t say anything to him via message. Hopefully he’ll be mature/professional enough to set aside his own feelings and give his approval based on your skills and experience.
Once you do get the job (cus I only speak in affirmations sis lol) I think it wouldn’t hurt to have a conversation about the past and apologise for any wrong doings, but AFTER you get the job.
Good luck
Oloni
Where can I get sex toys with discrete packaging???
12. February 2018
Hergasm. It’s 100 percent discreet. It doesn’t have a giant logo saying “hergasm” when posted lol! It comes in a normal delivery package. Get it here.
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