6 Things You Should Consider Before Meeting Up With An Ex

Sometimes we can find it difficult to face an ex after the wave of a turbulent breakup has subdued. The break up might not have even been bad but there could be some unfinished business that has fogged your mind with questions and you may be seeking closure. The conversation you and your ex will have may not be an easy one and you could find that you actually have to psych yourself up to go through with it. So if you have found yourself in this position here are six things you should take into consideration:

 

Make sure that you are emotionally ready to see him

There are now boundaries since the two of you are no longer together. The shift in the relationship may be something that you may find difficult to adjust to. Perhaps you are still extremely emotional or angry over what had happened between the two of you or you have ideas of rekindling your relationship. You could ask yourself various questions to ensure that you are making the right decision such as do you really need closure and if the meeting is planned, why? Are there things you intend to get off your chest? Will it change anything? Are your intentions to win your ex back? Do you want him to win you back? RECOMMENDED READING: 5 Questions You Should Ask Yourself If You Are Considering Leaving Him

 

 

Meeting up with your ex might not give you the answers you are looking for

You can envision exactly how you would want things to go and plan what you are going to say but in the moment things can go completely differently. You may know your ex, know how he behaves in particular situations and how to get to him but there is clearly something you are unsure of if you are going to meet up with him. The truth is even if you have an idea of what to expect you can never really be too sure of what you are going to get until you have met up with him so it’s best not to have too many expectations.

 

 

Look good

We all know how important self-care is and looking your best should be for yourself and yourself only. But let’s be honest sometimes we want them to see what they are missing out on and why not? When you meet up with your ex, let him see that your skin is glowing and your smile is bright regardless of what happens between the two of you.

 

 

Keep your greeting breezy and casual

If you going to a social event or something of that nature and you are aware that you will be bumping into him a simple hi, bye and a brief smile will suffice. You should aim to keep things cordial and skating along the surface but warm enough that there is no detection of bad vibes or animosity.

 

Resist the urge to be petty

If you are easily provoked by pettiness try to rise above it no matter how many occasions you are tested it is not easy especially when you are being targeted by someone who knows exactly how to tap into your emotions whether good or bad. But it is always useful to remember that most instant gratification will never satisfy you in the long run. You have to keep feeding it to get the brief satisfaction it provides back and frequent exposure to negativity does nothing but prevent you from moving on. Do not let him get the reaction he wants from you. RECOMMENDED READING: 6 Ways To Not Let Pettiness Poison Your Self Growth After Cutting Someone Off 

 

Masturbate

If you are aware that you and your partner find it hard to control yourself around one another or you haven’t had sex since the break up it might be a good idea to masturbate before you go to see him especially if he can detect that you would half-heartedly decline his advances it won’t take long before you end up in a situation you don’t (but kind of do) want to be in. RECOMMENDED READING: The Pros And Cons Of Having Sex With An Ex. So rub your clit, finger yourself or whip out that sex toy so you know you’ve had your nut. You should also check out our 6 Masturbating Tips For Women here. However if you know that deep down this might not make a difference and you are just kidding yourself thinking you can go to see him without anything happening that may make it harder for you to move on you might want to ask yourself whether it really is a good idea for you to be meeting up with your ex.

 

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