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Hi Oloni! So back in the beginning/mid august 2023, I sent a dilemma about whether or not to do long distance with a guy I met on hinge for a month before moving to the states. You expressed that I should NOT do it and that I should be looking for people in the US since I’ve moved. You did give really good advice but I decided to try out the long distance thing since I’ve never done it before and just wanted to experience it. It lasted for about 4 months and ended because the distance was hard and we were both starting things that would keep us super busy (me with grad school and him starting a new job at a hospital). He also just wasn’t a person of his word and would do things that I don’t see the person that I want to be with doing. So, my dilemma is that I’m now 24 and have not had sex yet. I still do want to be sexual and explore what things I’d like but I live in a very WHITE area of California (like I feel like I’m in the 1800s) and honestly not a single man either in real life or on the apps has caught my eye. I live close to LA and people always tell me to go there to try and meet men. I don’t say what I’m about to say for sympathy or that I’m self depreciating, but I am not exactly LA level of fine lol. The beauty standards in LA are something else and I have come to accept that my body and features don’t belong. I have a year and a bit left of grad school (I hope I’m able to move away when I’m done) and I don’t mind not doing anything for the duration of grad school. I just felt that I was moving on a good track to exploring ans getting to know myself better before I moved and I just feel like everything has been halted. I know sex and relationships are not a race but I can’t help feeling so behind. Should I just accept my fate and be alone for the foreseeable future or should I keep putting myself out there and keep trying to get what I want?
27. April 2024
Hey hope you’re well. Dating romantically or sexually can be scary but I really want you to take it easier on yourself. I really think you have to work on your confidence before seeking any sort of intimacy that includes you having to be proactive. I understand what you mean when you talk about standards but, girl so f*cking what?? Widen your search and get go to new places. Encourage a friend to be a wing man, get on the apps. You’ve got this!
..do set dates up?… do you set dtf.. or hook ups up?!.
27. April 2024
No love
Hi Oloni, so I slept with a guy who said before that he wanted me to be his girlfriend. After our night together he completely ghosted me and came back after 2 weeks to say he was bad at communicating but we’re “cool”. Not in a relationship but cool. Should I move on? I feel like we had better chemistry before we had sex.
27. April 2024
Yeah get rid of him he’s unserious
I lowkey don’t care about sex that much I feel there are things that feel so much better than that.I feel like society makes me feel like if you don’t do all these crazy things that you’re a boring person 💀
17. March 2024
Don’t let it. It is possible to find excitement in many other things outside of sex. Experience and enjoy it
My boyfriend and I broke up for a few months and I dated several people and slept with them. He slept with one person but it was a total stranger from a bar, he doesn’t even remember their name or if they used protection nothing. I have lost respect for him, because he fucked some any girl.
17. March 2024
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