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Hey Oloni i asked my bf to give me his phone quickly the other day to see how my latest IG photo quality looked. Pls tell me why i saw that i was muted
14. November 2018
Woah. Ask him why he did it. That’s incredibly weird.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, basically I was in a relationship last November up until August this year. In that time I went to university. Around February I started sleeping with a boy from uni. I would tell me boyfriend that I was going to sleep or going to the library. Me and the guy from uni would spend so much time together and got to know eachother really well. It took me until August to end the relationship with my boyfriend. The problem is now the guy from uni wants to get serious. I’m worried that he may meet my friends and family and end up finding out about the whole relationship I had whilst sleeping with him for 10 months. I really like him and don’t want him to think negatively of me because we have been getting on so well! Shall I end things with him because it is unlikely that he will still want to be with me knowing that I kept the whole relationship from him all this time?
14. November 2018
Yikes. It’s best you come clean and tell him what was going on. Give him the chance to decide what he’d like to do so he can avoid any surprises.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, so I’ve been sleeping with this guy for sometime. Recently after a night out one of his housemate walked me and my housemate home. We talked all night and he did try to have sex with me but I didn’t cause I know he’s housemates with the guy I’m sleeping with. As of now the guy I’m sleeping with isn’t replying to my messages because he thinks I slept with his housemate. First of I’m very confused as why he’s annoyed because he said he’s not looking for anything serious and I feel the same way. How can I get him to talk to me because I really enjoy sleeping with him.
14. November 2018
If he’s going to be immature, sadly you’re just going to have to leave him be till he’s ready talk so you can clear the air. Chances are his stupid housemate made something out of nothing.
Masturbate or find a new fuck buddy.
Oloni
I got pregnant for one Twitter weray boy that coincidentally you always interact with. So who better to ask for advice on this cockroach than you? I want to keep my baby but I’m unsure of how to confront him about this because we were just hooking up no strings attached. I guess my birth control failed us but he could’ve strapped up I guess. Oh well. I see his tweets about “can’t wait till I have one” under cute baby videos on the TL and sometimes I feel like tweeting back “well we got one on the way”. Obviously that wouldn’t be the wisest way to inform him so given the nature of our situationship, how do you suggest I break the news to him please? I’ve known for about 3 weeks and we have had sex in that time.
14. November 2018
Wowu.
I mean sis, I’d just call him and say “I’m late”.
Oloni
Hi Oloni. My boyfriend of 5 years whom I live with and who has been in my 9 year old’s life since she could remember broke up with me out of the blue 2 weeks after looking at engagement rings. We had an incredible relationship and rarely fought. I became incredibly close with his family and they are shocked and devastated. He said he feels like his future is already planned out for him and can’t handle the pressure. Is this something where it’s totally over or is he just freaking out about marriage and needs some time? We are on a 15 month lease and he is staying at his parents for the time being. He told my daughter that he loves her and that she can hang out with him whenever she wants. I love him so much and don’t want to give up hope that this could be something fixed with communication and time.
14. November 2018
Heya hun, I’m so sorry to hear what you’re going through. It could be a number of things. Maybe he got cold feet or perhaps he’s done something he feels guilty about, forcing him to leave the relationship. I can’t give you the answer. What I do know is that time will tell. I’m not saying you should wait around for him, but I do think it will tell you all you need to know.
It’s sad, but sometimes people wake up and decide they don’t want to be in a relationship anymore, even if things did seem rosy. You could try reaching out to him later, as I think you do deserve the right to hear it from his mouth.. what happened? What changed?
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