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Had holiday romance now I have STI, no way to get in touch with the guy. Think I found his Instagram but only has one post. What would you do?
10. January 2019
DM the account and try to verify if it’s the guy you slept with. If it is, let him know.
I also think it’s amazing that you’re trying to get hold of him, others wouldn’t bother.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I have a fb who I have been seeing on and off since May. Last night I went round, soon as we were done he said he was done for the night, basically hinting at me to leave. This has never happened as I usually stay over. He never said beforehand that I can’t stay over. I left straightaway as I didn’t feel comfortable staying after what he said and stormed out. Did I over react? Or what should I have done instead?
10. January 2019
You have a right to feel annoyed. After sex manners is quite important, so what you should do is tell him how it made you feel and that in the future he should let you know whether you can stay around or not.
Oloni
Oloni, I fell in love with my friend’s boyfriend. I was never gonna act on my feelings but one day he told me he had feelings for me and I reciprocated. We have been together for 6months now without my friend’s knowledge. We love each other so much. He’s the perfect guy for me. Just like I dream of. I don’t wanna lose him. What do you think?
10. January 2019
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I think you’re both messy. Friends do not make a move on their friends boyfriend. Her boyfriend is also a pos. Tell your friend what is going on. She deserves the truth.
Oloni
Hey oloni, me and my boyfriend have been together for a while. Recently me and him have been arguing alot lately, and he often blocks me off his social media. One of my friends thought it was shady so she made a fake account (lol) to test his loyalty. And he has been replying to it, saying he’s still single and he’s had bad relationships and that its hard to find time for him. Meanwhile, me and him are still together. I want to leave him but I want to tell him this is the reason why (because he’s not loyal). What do I do?
8. January 2019
Tell him then move on
Oloni
Hi Oloni. I have a guy friend for 8 years who I call ‘Daddy’ and my bf of 2 months is not ok with it. Yesterday he threatened to end our relationship over me calling my friend a simple word that I’ve always called him. He’s says he thinks it’s inappropriate but I think his reaction is irrational and that he’s being bossy by telling me what nicknames I can and cannot call my longest friend. I haven’t heard from my bf since yesterday’s argument and we usually speak everyday. I feel like he’s not going to call me but I don’t want to be the first one to reach out when it’s his fault that we are arguing, Men smh. What do you suggest I do?
8. January 2019
No not “men” lol I’m trying to understand if this is a cultural thing, but regardless this is just weird. I understand you boyfriends frustration. Apologise and call that guy by the name his parents chose.
..out here calling men who aren’t your dad “daddy” .. tufiakwa.
Oloni
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