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How do I continue having casual sex with herpes? 15. May 2019

See a sexual health nurse for more advice, but always use condoms. Educate your sexual partner on what herpes is and never have sex during an outbreak.

Oloni


So I’ve been seeing this guy for a year or so, but when I ask him when is our “anniversary” he says he doesn’t know… bare in mind he hasn’t been loyal to me on some occasions eg he’ll blatantly check out other girls who have their breast out etc, he lied about not having Instagram (I’ve never been fussed about social media- just found it strange he lied to me about it?..) both our parents know about each other and he says he wants to marry me, but I don’t trust him because of how he has been with me in the past (lying, not being loyal etc). Should I work on it or just let it go???? I can easily get over things (but I do like him a lot) what would your advice be?😭 15. May 2019

Please move tf on.

Oloni


OLONI HELP PLS S.O.S! My bf has been lying about his salary for x2 years and I’ve only just discovered as we are moving in together. He told me he earned over £35k but when we declared our joint income, I found out that he earns only £21k. I am the breadwinner and I am bewildered. I asked him why he lied and his response was “Every man tells white lies to impress women”. We are still in the process of signing documents for the property but I’m really feeling shakey about this HUGE decision, our relationship and him as a person now. I feel strange knowing that I earn more and that he’s kept this under wraps. I don’t want to appear superficial or materialistic by taking a break from us or putting off the move… Especially as he thinks it’s so minor and doesn’t get what my issue is with this. Please advise on how this situation could be approached and on if my feelings towards this are valid of not? (P.s. big fan, love you x) 15. May 2019

Saying he didn’t see your missed call is a white lie. Saying you look extremely amazing as he tries to rush you out the door for dinner reservations, even though he’s not really fond of the dress you’re wearing is a white lie.

Fibbing about how much he makes because of his fragile ego is just bizarre. You’d have thought that he would have eventually come clean after a couple of months, but to lie for two years, again is insane. Your feelings are valid, because if he can lie about this for so long what else is he hiding from you?

You do need to have a conversation and express how you feel, he knows what he did was wrong so don’t allow him to manipulate the situation. If he never wanted to disclose how much he made to you prior, then that would have been fine, but this is just a form of financial infidelity which has to be addressed.

It’s up to you to decide what you’d like to do in terms of continuing the relationship after speaking on the matter. Is this something you can forgive? Is how much your partner makes a big deal breaker for you? Is being a bloody liar a deal breaker for you?

Oloni


Oloni I am SO happy my fav part of your content is back!! 12. May 2019

Me too!!!

 


I love my man, but can’t stop talking to random guys from my past. I love the attention and to be honest, wish we had more sex. I used to cheat on exes but I’ve been good, so far. It’s getting harder to stay faithful but I don’t know how to talk to him about it? 12. May 2019

You need to be on your own not in a relationship my love, well not a monogamous relationship anyway. From what you’ve written in, it doesn’t sound like you’re ready to be in a commitment and that’s fine. There’s clearly a reason you enjoy communicating with guys from your past, as well as getting the attention. Talk to your current boyfriend explain how you feel and decide what to do from there.

Oloni


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