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Found out this guy I’ve been seeing for 6 months has a long term girlfriend. My friend decided to text the girl and tell her he’s been cheating but she ignored the message. What should I do now?
8. January 2019
Wait for her to text back.
Hi oloni, there’s this one super fine black guy in my office and we’re the only black people at our company. I would love to go out with him but he’s never given me the time of day. Any time he sees me he just waves and goes on about his business. Should I take it as he’s not interested?
8. January 2019
Start a convo with him! Ask how his weekend was.. ask if he has plans for the weekend. Work on it from there.. for now..
Oloni
Hi Oloni. First time messaging! I was hooking up with a guy on and off for a year and have been going out with him as bf/gf now for 6 months. 3 months in I saw messages on his phone to a girl on Instagram arranging to meet up whilst he was on holiday. He said he never went through with it. I agreed to move past it and work through. Now 3 months later (6months in) I found out he recently slept with one of his old female friends. He’s said he’s genuinely sorry and will never let it or anything similar happen again. That he wants us for the long term. It’s been a month since this happened and I don’t know whether to give him one final chance. Any advice please?
8. January 2019
He’s so sloppy and I don’t believe he didn’t meet up with that girl on holiday. You just didn’t have proof, the way you do this time. It just sounds like he can’t keep his dick in his pants and after some time, will only continue to cheat. It’s sensible to leave. Make sure you also get a check up!
Oloni
Hey Oloni, soooooo basically one of my close friends banged a guy I kinda had my eye on (not her fault she didn’t know). It was a one night stand and didnt mean anything to her, but now he’s being really flirty with me and I’m still attracted to him. It wouldn’t be an issue but I’m still a virgin and idk how I feel about losing it to the town bike… so my question is do you think I should peruse him or lool elsewhere?
8. January 2019
Lol @ town bike. I’m resisting the urge to laugh at that slut shame.. but it towards a guy, so meh. Honestly, it’s up to you. Are you looking for romance, or just to have some sexual fun? Lol if it’s the latter, then just make sure he’s been checked and perhaps.. IF YOU WANT .. tell your friend you’re also thinking about going there.
Oloni
Heyy Oloni, soooo me and my GORGEOUS man have been together a year. Sex so far has been AMAZING. When we got together he was a lot more experienced than me. However, for the past 2 months he’s been avoiding sex! I’ve even bought 100 pound worth of toys to add to our collection (that he suggested) and we haven’t even touched them. It’s always an excuse. Whenever I bring it up he calls my older ass ‘childish’. When we got together he claimed to be this ‘sex maniac’ now a year in and it’s like ‘????’. What’s your opinion? Do you think things aren’t the same anymore? Does this happen in long term relationships? Is it me? Thanks a lot really hope to hear from you!
8. January 2019
Heya hun, 1 year isn’t that long haha. But the best thing you can do is talk to him and share your concerns. There could be a number of reasons, but you’ll only know IF you speak to him and express how this makes you feel.
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