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Oloni, I fell in love with my friend’s boyfriend. I was never gonna act on my feelings but one day he told me he had feelings for me and I reciprocated. We have been together for 6months now without my friend’s knowledge. We love each other so much. He’s the perfect guy for me. Just like I dream of. I don’t wanna lose him. What do you think?
10. January 2019
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I think you’re both messy. Friends do not make a move on their friends boyfriend. Her boyfriend is also a pos. Tell your friend what is going on. She deserves the truth.
Oloni
Hey oloni, me and my boyfriend have been together for a while. Recently me and him have been arguing alot lately, and he often blocks me off his social media. One of my friends thought it was shady so she made a fake account (lol) to test his loyalty. And he has been replying to it, saying he’s still single and he’s had bad relationships and that its hard to find time for him. Meanwhile, me and him are still together. I want to leave him but I want to tell him this is the reason why (because he’s not loyal). What do I do?
8. January 2019
Tell him then move on
Oloni
Hi Oloni. I have a guy friend for 8 years who I call ‘Daddy’ and my bf of 2 months is not ok with it. Yesterday he threatened to end our relationship over me calling my friend a simple word that I’ve always called him. He’s says he thinks it’s inappropriate but I think his reaction is irrational and that he’s being bossy by telling me what nicknames I can and cannot call my longest friend. I haven’t heard from my bf since yesterday’s argument and we usually speak everyday. I feel like he’s not going to call me but I don’t want to be the first one to reach out when it’s his fault that we are arguing, Men smh. What do you suggest I do?
8. January 2019
No not “men” lol I’m trying to understand if this is a cultural thing, but regardless this is just weird. I understand you boyfriends frustration. Apologise and call that guy by the name his parents chose.
..out here calling men who aren’t your dad “daddy” .. tufiakwa.
Oloni
Sorry, forgot to send my dilemma with that “Hey Oloni” message. I was at work and one of the PTs at my work was flirting with me. We were having deep conversations but also I was saying it was hard to find a fuck buddy and another colleague was suggesting that me and the PT should be fuck buddies, I was really hesitant as I didn’t know him that well. After my shift I went back to his, we got food and we were then thinking about doing the fuck buddy thing.. one thing led to another and we were having sex however he came quickly but not by having sex but foreplay (bit of a shit night, not worth it) We tried again but he because of his recent operation his scar tissue was hurting him, he wanted to go to a&e to get medication and said he would drop me off. I haven’t heard from him since that night and I wonder if he basically just used me for that night?
8. January 2019
Heya, I think he’s super embarrassed. Why not give him a call?
Oloni
Oloni, I’ve been my now ex’s sidechick for the last year. I finally plucked up the (drunk) courage to leave him on my 30th bday as he spent 1hr of it with me. I dumped him via drunk text but wasn’t rude, just stated I deserved better and I knew he wouldn’t leave his 6th bm. Messaged him 2 days later to see if he had anything to say and he’s now acting like I did him wrong. He thinks coz he stepped out of his comfort zone by buying me flowers for my bday then I dump him next day I was wrong. Was I wrong? Should I have picked a better time? I’m in bits when I know I shouldn’t be. Please help.
8. January 2019
So he has a girlfriend and all of this is going on? Everyone in this scenario is unserious.
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