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If a guy likes a finger in his booty or for a woman to play with his bum, does that make him gay or bisexual?
10. January 2019
No, because you’re a woman. That’s not how being gay/bi works.
Oloni
Hey Oloni. How long is too long to be dating and sleeping with someone without having a title? It’s been 7 months and the last time we spoke about it he maintained that he doesn’t like to “rush into things”. I’m not desperate for a title but I’d just like to make sure I’m not being used for sex/food/company/a place to stay. We get a long flawlessly and this is the only issue we face. Thanks in advance
10. January 2019
Anything longer than 3 months to me is a joke. Especially if you spend a lot of time with that person. 7 months, just seems as though he’s trying to get the benefits of a relationship without calling you his. Pump your breaks and talk to him about it.
If he still gives you the same excuse, it’s down to you to decide on what to do.
Oloni
Had holiday romance now I have STI, no way to get in touch with the guy. Think I found his Instagram but only has one post. What would you do?
10. January 2019
DM the account and try to verify if it’s the guy you slept with. If it is, let him know.
I also think it’s amazing that you’re trying to get hold of him, others wouldn’t bother.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I have a fb who I have been seeing on and off since May. Last night I went round, soon as we were done he said he was done for the night, basically hinting at me to leave. This has never happened as I usually stay over. He never said beforehand that I can’t stay over. I left straightaway as I didn’t feel comfortable staying after what he said and stormed out. Did I over react? Or what should I have done instead?
10. January 2019
You have a right to feel annoyed. After sex manners is quite important, so what you should do is tell him how it made you feel and that in the future he should let you know whether you can stay around or not.
Oloni
Oloni, I fell in love with my friend’s boyfriend. I was never gonna act on my feelings but one day he told me he had feelings for me and I reciprocated. We have been together for 6months now without my friend’s knowledge. We love each other so much. He’s the perfect guy for me. Just like I dream of. I don’t wanna lose him. What do you think?
10. January 2019
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I think you’re both messy. Friends do not make a move on their friends boyfriend. Her boyfriend is also a pos. Tell your friend what is going on. She deserves the truth.
Oloni
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