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I have my own place and my boyfriend doesn’t. He stays over very often and some of his things are here. Should he be paying partial rent?
30. May 2019
Yes
Oloni
Hey Oloni, If a man constantly makes sexual insinuations/ innuendos in the very early stages of dating, does that indicate that he only wants sex? (This is after warning him not to). He seems very playful generally and like it’s just a part of his personality as he does treat me like a lady.
30. May 2019
Men who talk about sex or make innuendos around sex are trying their luck. I personally think it’s creepy especially if you’re clearly not going along with it. It’s also clearly what he’s after. Run
Oloni
Hi Oloni, is it unreasonable to expect your boyfriend not to like other girls pictures on Instagram/twitter. It makes me feel insecure when he does and in the past I’ve found out that he has gone on to messages some of these girls and although I’ve forgiven him for that, you can understand why I don’t like it when I see him liking pictures because in my head it’s not just necessarily a like it could be more. He thinks there is nothing wrong with it and says it’s just a like but in the past it hasn’t been just a like. Basically I think it’s wrong for him to do it given the circumstances but I would like another opinion. Thanks x
30. May 2019
If it’s caused issues in the past, it’s understandable as to why it would make you uncomfortable. However you can’t be in control of his actions. You’ve told him how you feel, and he’s not listening, so what will you do now?
Oloni
So Most my friends are scumbags and cheat and so am my, most my friends are married and they cheat regularly it seems the normal and if i dont cheat it seems that am not ok, if you know what I mean. Been married for less than a year and I have calmed down but have the odd moments where I may kiss a girl or take a little further. My friends are my friends I want to tell them to stop what they are doing but they will just laugh at me, it does seem like men cheating is the normal #blackmendocheat . Do you think I stop being friends with them as I try to be a better man or just stay friends with and try not to copy what they are doing. Its a real struggle.
30. May 2019
You need some new friends and self control. You’re not even ready to be married smh.
Oloni
Hi oloni! Ive been dating my current boyfriend for about 2 years and we’ve gotten so close. He’s like my bestfriend and we pretty much talk about everything. Anyway we were listening to laid bare together and the topic of STIs was brought up. I asked if he ever had one and he said no and I said me neither. Truth is, back in uni I dated a guy that was basically a hoe (found out too late) and he gave me chlamydia. We got treated for it and broke up. This was about 3 or so years ago. My question is, am I wrong for lying to my boyfriend about this? Does it matter that I didn’t tell him that I had one in the past? It is embarrassing and I don’t want him to think differently of me even though it wasn’t my fault
30. May 2019
It’s completely normal to want to keep getting an STI in the past to yourself. Especially because it’s not exactly normalised, however if you weren’t prepared to tell him the truth you shouldn’t have asked lol. As long as you’re clean now I wouldn’t worry much about it.
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