Hi Oloni, I’m in a situation where I am so tempted to message a girl on a “I come to you as a woman” vibe. Last year met this older guy I’m 20 , he’s 29 whilst on holiday. He seemed so nice and lovely and was really into me and was proper pursuing me taking me on dates,cruise dinners, shopping trips , VIP table /bottles for my girls he is a well known producer and was just spending literally over £2,000 just for my time not sex. He even told me when we get back to London we need to meet up because this can’t end on holiday . When we got back to London we eventually went on various dates , chilled and had sex (he took my virginity- which I’m not pressed about) anyway I found out he has been engaged for over two years via twitter . I was so upset because I felt like I was falling in love with him and saw a long term future for us .I asked him about it and he blocked me, then called me on private admitting that he is engaged and they live together – this means I’ve had sex in her bed 🙁 . He then asked me to meet up and talk which I declined and told him to just forget about me and what we did – his response was that ” I’m being a stupid little girl if I’m letting what I see online ruin what we have”. I’m trying to end our relationship but he just won’t listen and keeps popping up, I’ve blocked him on everything but he just finds a way to contact me or lurks around my twitter. His newest tactic is to threaten to take my car which he put money towards if I don’t stop my “childish behaviour” His girl deserves a lot better and I deserve time to move on and not to be harassed. I really want to tell her so he can get out of my life but I’m worried if I do then he’ll see it as I’m wanting him in my life not hers… if that makes sense
3. January 2017
Oh wow what a huge pickle.
So many questions to ask here, but I’ll just tell you what I think you should do. First off, he has more to lose than you. What a silly man. Threaten to get the police involved and to tell his wife so he can leave you alone. His behaviour is disgusting and if it still carries on, do not make those threats empty and move forward by telling the police and and his wife (?) to be.
Sometimes in life we come across nasty people disguised as angels. I don’t want this to warp your view of men, because the reality is not all dudes behave this way. I hope you are able to get out of this situation as it’s incredibly worrying. I’d also suggest that you try to get a new number, just for peace of mind.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I’ve always been that girl who’s said ”I will never get back with a cheater or a guy who’s speaking to other girls whilst in a relationship”. I had the most perfect relationship for about 2 years now and recently I found nudes of other girls on his phone. He claimed it was not that deep and cries to me all the time in fear of me leaving him. I feel disrespected and hurt but I love him so much, to the point I don’t think I can ever move on! I guess u don’t know how u will take it till it happens to u. I can’t believe I’m even considering it but I’m asking if it’s ok to stay and fear it happening again or just leave and be miserable.
3. January 2017
A similar scenario happened in my new eBook DEAR OLONI – I really do not understand why you’d want to go back to this relationship. You’ve literally just caught your boyfriend cheating and his response was that it wasn’t that serious followed my a few crocodile tears? Come on, give this one a think yourself. Or just get my eBook to see how I responded there.
Hi, the girl my boyfriend used to see before we got together just had a baby, he says it’s definitely not his because she said so, but there is no actual proof that it isn’t. I don’t want to keep bringing it up to him but it bothers me. What should I do?
3. January 2017
Woah. Right now you’re going to have to take his word, till you have any other reason to believe it’s his.
Oloni
Dear Oloni, I’ve been with my boyfriend for a short amount of time, and in term of characteristics I truly adore him. I also however wish he put more effort into how he dresses. Please if you might offer some advice on how to suggest this without risking hurting his feelings, as I really care about him and I’d rather not lol. Thanks in advance.
3. January 2017
Take him shopping as a date, lol couples do it all the time.
Oloni
Hi Oloni I’ve been with my boyfriend for two years now and at the beginning of our relationship I would always buy him expensive things and book expensive hotels for us and I didn’t mind because I was earning more than him. Now the tables have turned and he’s earning a lot more than me but I’m still the one that’s still spending hundreds. For example for his birthday I bought him some yeezy’s and an expensive watch and for mine I just got a simple hotel and teddy bear. I don’t know if I’m being really selfish or if he just prioritises other things but it’s made me feel a bit resentful because I have spent so much on him because I adore him and he hasn’t spent half of what I have. How do I speak to him without sounding like a spoilt and selfish brat?
3. January 2017
Oh gosh! He just seems like a horrible gift giver, you just need to have a conversation and tell him what you’d prefer he prioritised. You’ve been with each other for two years, I’m sure you know how to speak to your boyfriend so you don’t sound like a spoilt brat! Lol.
Oloni
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