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Hey, Let’s be real, he doesn’t rate you or his girlfriend if he’s 100% doing things his girlfriend would be uncomfortable with (I have to say that because you never know they might be trying to recruit you lol). Tell him it’s making you uncomfortable and you wish to be treated otherwise. It doesn’t have to be complicated, just let him know you’re not a mug. Don’t downplay it, it irked you enough to write in about it, so now tell him how you feel. Ebi COME TO LAID BARE….find out more about it. Hey lovely, Let me keep it real. You chose to embark on this journey, he did not. As nice as it would be for him to be 100% down for the cause, that’s not how life works especially when you’re dealing with something like sex. He needs to be in the same space you’re in or it will not work. There’s also no point forcing it, you’ll end up hurting yourself. I think if this matters so much to you, you need to be willing to let your relationship go in pursuit of that, that should have been the mindset before you embarked on this journey. You should not be in a relationship if you constantly fear your partner will cheat, that’s a huge NO. You started off compatible but if he values regular sex the way you value celibacy then at least for now you need to accept that you’re incompatible and act accordingly, being fair to the both of you. Sit down and talk, do not impose your wishes upon him. Tell him to be brutally honest, does he think he can do this relationship without sex? If he say’s no and you are unwilling to compromise, let this relationship go. He could come around later and you’ll get back together or you may change your mind on your desires/view of sex. Only time will tell, but for now get the clarity you need and make a decision. Ebi Do better by blocking him on everything, you already know your feelings for this breed of bastard are of the devil, his only purpose is to scatter your life, don’t open that door. Ebi That’s so great to hear! Congrats dear. Oloni Get my eBook DEAR OLONI it has lots of advice especially for this type of scenario.
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