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Hey girl (love u by the way ), let me get straight to it , after being in a relationship for 5 years me and my ex broke up July last year. I was devastated although being unhappy for some time I became extremely comfortable with him and honestly didn’t see myself having that kind of connection with anyone else. Moving on. We had a very messy break up and I was heartbroken. I took time to heal about 3 weeks I shut myself away from the world. I would go work but I’d come home and pretty much be in my room. 3 weeks later my cousin invited me around to her house for some drinks she had invited a friend of ours (male) and he brought a friend. This particular friend I met a year ago at a friends bday party we briefly spoke but nothing memorable. I got there, we were all chilling vybzing etc. Felt good to be out the house. Me and the friend of a friend let’s call him Q…we hit it off instantly. He was just like me. We had the same intrested. Same humour same views on several things. Everything was great. We had sex that night. It was.. INCREDIABLE ( he eat my ? Put his dick In took it out and ate me till I came ?) I fell in love instantly. Anyways honestly I didn’t want anything serious I was Okay with hooking up. 4 months down the line… I’ve spend every weekend with him. At least see him two weekdays a week. Speak to him through the day constantly. He tells me loves me. I think I love him too but how can I just love someone so quickly after loving somebody else. This is so new to me, could it be a rebound ?? My feelings feel genuine will they last ?? I think he’s the one But how can I know 🙁
8. January 2017
Hey hun, thank you. Jealous of your sex story btw lol.
No all relationships or love interests after a break up are always a rebound. It is very possible for you to make a genuine connection with someone new after a relationship ends. That’s the thing about love, it’s so unexplainable. I will say this though, be patient with your feelings and give yourself time to still get to know this new dude.
Oloni
I’ve been having sex with my ex’s half brother for a while, he has a girlfriend, he says he’s going to break up with her within the next few weeks, should I come to his girlfriend as a woman (fucking up the chance of us being together) or wait for him to break up with her?
8. January 2017
This is so messy. Why would you even want a relationship with him? Your ex’s half brother and he’s clearly cheating. Aren’t you bothered by any of this? I think you should leave his girlfriend alone.
Dear Oloni, I’ve been in a ‘relationship’ with this guy for the past 5-6months but it doesn’t feel like we are in a relationship. He goes up to a week without replying my messages and he doesn’t answer my calls. His excuse is that his phone doesn’t work but when we are together he’s on his phone and it looks like it works perfectly. I feel like he is playing me but he also has been asking me a lot of times to come off the pill because he wants to have a child with me, which I do not want to do because it looks like he is very unreliable. He already has one child which he had when he was 16 and now he is 24. I recently called off the relationship but I don’t know it’s it’s him that I miss or just the sex because when we first got together my intentions were to have him as someone I can just have sex with nothing else until he pulled us into a title of being in a ‘relationship’. I don’t know if I should holla him and just go along and see if he’ll improve or just lock off the relationship entirely. I feel like a dicknotysed, because the sex is the best I have ever had. He eats pussy and he has gotten to know what I like so well even better than I know my own sexual needs. My main question is, AM I A SIDE CHICK? OR DOES HE TREAT ME LIKE THIS BECAUSE HE IS OLDER THAN ME (He’s 24 and I’m 20) or AM I JUST A BEAT BECAUSE WE HAD SEX ON THE FIRST DATE?
8. January 2017
I’m annoyed I read this and I’m annoyed you can’t tell this guy is a loser. Move on
Oloni
Hi oloni, me and my partner of 2 years have just had our first child 2 weeks ago, I’m not ready to have sex yet, but he feels that I’m neglating him, I’m still just getting used to having a baby around the house & the sleepless nights I feel like I maybe should just have sex with him to keep him happy. keep in mind we haven’t had sex throughtout most of my pregnancy so I do understand where his coming from but I’m just honestly too tired & im still abit sore. I don’t know how to tell him not right now because I don’t want him to feel neglected or to make him feel not wanted, as I keep putting it off. But I don’t know what to tell him.. any advise? x
8. January 2017
Hey hun, okay first off CONGRATULATIONS!!! That’s amazing news!!
Right now, as for your dilemma, you’ve only just given birth two weeks ago so you shouldn’t really be having sex yet. The safest time to have sex is three to six weeks from what I’ve been told and generally read about. This is to give yourself time to heal especially after the bleeding from the birth.
Even after those weeks are up, my dear do not stress yourself. You should only have sex when you’re physically and emotionally ready and your partner needs to be understanding towards this. You need to have an honest conversation with him and explain why you’re not ready, once gain, you’ve JUST had a baby.
You’ll both be okay!
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I don’t have any relationship issues but I have issues with sex. Whatever my husband does, I just cannot orgasm. I’ve tried a vibrator and everything but still, nothing. Otherwise, the sex is amazing it’s just that part. The only feeling close to it is needing to pee? Is that normal? Do you have any recommendations of things I should try out? Thank you!
8. January 2017
I would suggest you try to enjoy foreplay for a longer period. I feel like a lot of couples skip this step or don’t spend enough time on it. So yeah, a tip from me would be to last 20 long ass minutes on simply, touching, playing and kissing. do this all over your erogenous zones and you should notice a difference.
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